she is driving a wedge between myself and the group
That friend is correct. Your girlfriend sounds exhausting. I understand not wanting to be added to the groupchat, because those are your friends and things can get messy.
But, based on what you describe, she was totally making a big deal out of nothing:
Eventually, there were a few interactions in the group that she felt were passive-aggressive towards her, i.e. not using reaction emojis on her messages, and a feeling that the other couple in the group was always trying to “one-up” her and I.
That's it? She's mad because she thinks your friends don't laugh react to her messages enough? Do you agree that they are passive aggressive? You sound like you just repeat what your gf says to your friends without actually thinking about what she is saying.
my GF now feels that my friends are getting off easy: that I should be harsher on them for disrespecting her.
How did they disrespect her? What is she even talking about here? You're supposed to ground them? She left the groupchat because she didn't want to be in it and that's fine… what does she want from them now?
Sorry man but your gf sounds legitimately insane and exhausting and I wouldn't ditch lifelong friends for her.
So far almost one year. I want to be independent financially and after maternity leave be back working. I am working now in a tech company and I would never resigned for it.
Thanks for sharing your experience – I actually don’t game at all. I tried a lot of the games he plays and unfortunately it’s just not my thing. I think that’s why it’s been nude for me to get on board with his gaming levels.
When we did on-line together it almost felt worse – we had more downtime together indoors. I wanted to do something together, and he always wanted to game. I like your idea of setting boundaries, I’ll try to adopt that in my relationship. Thank you!
then she needs to get a job. it’d be different if you’re we were well off and were okay with this, but clearly you’re not so a compromise of sorts has to happen or you have to part ways
Your wife is setting unrealistic and unfair boundaries.
“Hey guys can we do a girls night out next time I kind of feel like the third wheel.”
Lmfao this is so wrong. The majority of women my age (20s) go for the top 10% of dudes, especially on apps. Most guys don't get ANY matches.
I get matches but I don't wanna hear that guys have it easy. A lot of dudes will fuck or date ANYTHING it doesn't matter what the girl looks like.
You're just brainwashed into thinking hetero men have it easy apparently when I'm guessing you aren't in the shoes of one and have no idea.
she is driving a wedge between myself and the group
That friend is correct. Your girlfriend sounds exhausting. I understand not wanting to be added to the groupchat, because those are your friends and things can get messy.
But, based on what you describe, she was totally making a big deal out of nothing:
Eventually, there were a few interactions in the group that she felt were passive-aggressive towards her, i.e. not using reaction emojis on her messages, and a feeling that the other couple in the group was always trying to “one-up” her and I.
That's it? She's mad because she thinks your friends don't laugh react to her messages enough? Do you agree that they are passive aggressive? You sound like you just repeat what your gf says to your friends without actually thinking about what she is saying.
my GF now feels that my friends are getting off easy: that I should be harsher on them for disrespecting her.
How did they disrespect her? What is she even talking about here? You're supposed to ground them? She left the groupchat because she didn't want to be in it and that's fine… what does she want from them now?
Sorry man but your gf sounds legitimately insane and exhausting and I wouldn't ditch lifelong friends for her.
So far almost one year. I want to be independent financially and after maternity leave be back working. I am working now in a tech company and I would never resigned for it.
Thanks for sharing your experience – I actually don’t game at all. I tried a lot of the games he plays and unfortunately it’s just not my thing. I think that’s why it’s been nude for me to get on board with his gaming levels.
When we did on-line together it almost felt worse – we had more downtime together indoors. I wanted to do something together, and he always wanted to game. I like your idea of setting boundaries, I’ll try to adopt that in my relationship. Thank you!
then she needs to get a job. it’d be different if you’re we were well off and were okay with this, but clearly you’re not so a compromise of sorts has to happen or you have to part ways