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If you think the only reason a woman would get with you is because of your paycheck, you have some serious personal issues to work on.
This is definitely one of those self fulfilling prophecy problems. If your expectation is that all women are shitty you're going to form shitty relationships
No, I I did not forget it for five days. I bought it on Tuesday. I meal prepped Tuesday night but didn’t need it that day, found out I had Covid Wednesday and then went into isolation on Thursday. I texted her Thursday and asked her to do that. I understand she probably just forgot but that doesn’t mean that it hasn’t affected me any less. I know that the solution is to just not ask her to do stuff for me anymore.
You're very very right. He works a full time job on 3rd shift so he works overnights. So he sleeps during the day when im at work. But it is a mismatching thing. And youre right that I shouldn't seek the opportunity to be upset when I know the answers. It isnt necessarily that I'm looking to be upset, when I ask him if he has, it's because we have previously agreed on new sets of boundaries where he will at least tell me when he has done it. He just doesn't tell me though so when I stumble upon it, it frustrates me not just because he masturbated, but also that he hid it knowing that new boundary of telling me when he has done it. Regardless, it wasn't a good healthy boundary. We've been talking all morning here about options on things to do, and having a scheduled time of “this day we do it” is where we were starting to land before I saw this comment here. I also suggested that instead of diving deeper and deeper into visual stimulus if he were to get toys to be able to change his physical stimulus. I have one and he's aware of it and I seldom masturbate, but I do sometimes but I don't look at porn. My issue with him isn't all about how he masturbates, it's more in him looking at other naked women. It exacerbates my insecurities and I've made him aware of that, and he will tell me he won't look at it anymore then does. So at this point, I've just linked him masturbating to him looking at other women as thats what has happened repeatedly now despite me expressing my feelings over it. I'm trying to come to terms that he doesn't look at porn to replace me, but more to supplement his desires to get off when I've made myself unavailable to him.
I left her. Not the other way around. I know it was a bad thing to do. But I’m just human and I blacked out. I’ve never done this my whole life. This was something I told myself I wouldn’t do ever, even with my past relationships even all the pain I felt with my past relationships, I never hurt any of my exes. There’s only so much a person can take before they go crazy, illogical and unreasonable. And that was it for me. In that moment she was the most evil and cruel person for what she did to me. I did what I did. I’m not proud of it and I hate her for making me the person I don’t want to be.
Assuming that she is being truthful, maybe you should abandon the routine and have sex earlier in the day. No mention of her initiating. If she doesn't initiate … why?
First, NO, “fundamental values” do not change overnight. OP you are just starting your life. This was a good lesson in recognizing your own personal red flags. Ultimately the decision whether you go back is yours and yours alone. However, I want to tell you, as a woman who was in an abusive relationship at your age, this is a cycle of abuse.
Lastly, you are not to blame for his emotional or mental state. Hopefully, you have someone in your life who can help you recognize when he is being manipulative.
No missing reasons. Her mom said she feared I would go for custody if I knew. I imagine that is the reason coupled with the fact she had addiction issues. I don’t think doing the right thing or contacting her ex was the first thing on her mind. I hope she gets better though and is able to have a good relationship with our son.
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If you think the only reason a woman would get with you is because of your paycheck, you have some serious personal issues to work on.
This is definitely one of those self fulfilling prophecy problems. If your expectation is that all women are shitty you're going to form shitty relationships
No, I I did not forget it for five days. I bought it on Tuesday. I meal prepped Tuesday night but didn’t need it that day, found out I had Covid Wednesday and then went into isolation on Thursday. I texted her Thursday and asked her to do that. I understand she probably just forgot but that doesn’t mean that it hasn’t affected me any less. I know that the solution is to just not ask her to do stuff for me anymore.
You're very very right. He works a full time job on 3rd shift so he works overnights. So he sleeps during the day when im at work. But it is a mismatching thing. And youre right that I shouldn't seek the opportunity to be upset when I know the answers. It isnt necessarily that I'm looking to be upset, when I ask him if he has, it's because we have previously agreed on new sets of boundaries where he will at least tell me when he has done it. He just doesn't tell me though so when I stumble upon it, it frustrates me not just because he masturbated, but also that he hid it knowing that new boundary of telling me when he has done it. Regardless, it wasn't a good healthy boundary. We've been talking all morning here about options on things to do, and having a scheduled time of “this day we do it” is where we were starting to land before I saw this comment here. I also suggested that instead of diving deeper and deeper into visual stimulus if he were to get toys to be able to change his physical stimulus. I have one and he's aware of it and I seldom masturbate, but I do sometimes but I don't look at porn. My issue with him isn't all about how he masturbates, it's more in him looking at other naked women. It exacerbates my insecurities and I've made him aware of that, and he will tell me he won't look at it anymore then does. So at this point, I've just linked him masturbating to him looking at other women as thats what has happened repeatedly now despite me expressing my feelings over it. I'm trying to come to terms that he doesn't look at porn to replace me, but more to supplement his desires to get off when I've made myself unavailable to him.
I left her. Not the other way around. I know it was a bad thing to do. But I’m just human and I blacked out. I’ve never done this my whole life. This was something I told myself I wouldn’t do ever, even with my past relationships even all the pain I felt with my past relationships, I never hurt any of my exes. There’s only so much a person can take before they go crazy, illogical and unreasonable. And that was it for me. In that moment she was the most evil and cruel person for what she did to me. I did what I did. I’m not proud of it and I hate her for making me the person I don’t want to be.
Considering you don't really know the whole situation, no.
Interracial adoption is not wrong. It’s not shopping. Every little child deserves a loving family regardless of their ethnicity.
yes. yes you will
Assuming that she is being truthful, maybe you should abandon the routine and have sex earlier in the day. No mention of her initiating. If she doesn't initiate … why?
We're still talking. But we're trying to pass time to like cool off
First, NO, “fundamental values” do not change overnight. OP you are just starting your life. This was a good lesson in recognizing your own personal red flags. Ultimately the decision whether you go back is yours and yours alone. However, I want to tell you, as a woman who was in an abusive relationship at your age, this is a cycle of abuse.
Lastly, you are not to blame for his emotional or mental state. Hopefully, you have someone in your life who can help you recognize when he is being manipulative.
That shoulder shrug is horrible, he’s admitting that he’ll only truly love his kids if they come out heterosexual
No missing reasons. Her mom said she feared I would go for custody if I knew. I imagine that is the reason coupled with the fact she had addiction issues. I don’t think doing the right thing or contacting her ex was the first thing on her mind. I hope she gets better though and is able to have a good relationship with our son.
He is 36.
I was with someone who was that intense. Please, for your own sanity, dump her.
Thank goodness this little maggot doesn’t have children to abuse.