It's also a problem that you brought up a completely reasonable discussion and she freaked out and tried to make you feel bad about it. To me this is breakup worthy in itself.
Instead of focusing on your past decisions, you need to focus on the future. You say that your marriage is non-existent. That seems like the biggest issue to address.
Do you want to stay in this marriage? If so, what would you like that to be like? If you want to make this marriage work, find some counseling.
Do you want to separate? If so, how will you handle co-parenting? What country will you each be living in?
She's not coming back man. If she faced such trauma then it's not going away. It is what it is, you tried to salvage it, It didn't work. It's not your fault, neither is it hers. Sometimes, such things happen and it gets out of control. Stop wasting your own time and move on.
You’re 22. You need to be exploring other things and relationships. Don’t focus on this anymore. Easy to say, harder to do. Take a solo vacation. You need some alone time, then some growth time.
Sounds like he's getting pressure from somewhere to produce an heir. You've been married 3 years and no kids yet, my guess is his parents are up his ass about it. He's horny is also probably playing a big part. You are readily accessible due to the unfortunate forced marriage.
Get on birth control immediately.
Go slow with dating him. What you don't want is to get pregnant thinking you are both falling for each other only to find out his only interest was planting a baby in you to shut his family up and then he completely ignores you and the child, just playing superdad when the family come around for appearances.
Question whether or not what you are feeling is legitimate or is it more like a Stockholm Syndrome situation. You don't have to go back to hating him, but be cautious about what you are really feeling and whether he feels the same way or is love-bombing as a means to an end. Be very aware of if he diverts the conversations away from the topic, talks in circles, uses a lot of word salad. If you can't get straight answers to straight questions. Don't trust him.
I wouldn’t care. Honestly, I’d probably be happy that I found a guy who cared about his appearance and skin and would just want him to be open and honest with me
If this man is doing this to you, then he is doing it to other women who work for him and how dangerous he becomes will depend on how vulnerable they are.
Stop projecting that there is something wrong with YOU. It has nothing to do with your looks, or personality. Stop making excuses for him. You are worthy of a man who respects you, and loves you. If he won't answer you it is because he doesn't want to admit the truth – he still has feelings for his ex. It has nothing to do with him wanting to protect you from your insecurities.
Have y’all had other fights like this? This sounds like one of those issues people make up out of thin air bc they want out of the relationship. Something isn’t right here.
My doc told me to get up and go pee immediately after and then again 20 minutes later. That does mean I need to chug a glass of water after the first round, which is a PITA, but worth it to avoid UTI’s.
It's also a problem that you brought up a completely reasonable discussion and she freaked out and tried to make you feel bad about it. To me this is breakup worthy in itself.
Instead of focusing on your past decisions, you need to focus on the future. You say that your marriage is non-existent. That seems like the biggest issue to address.
Do you want to stay in this marriage? If so, what would you like that to be like? If you want to make this marriage work, find some counseling.
Do you want to separate? If so, how will you handle co-parenting? What country will you each be living in?
She's not coming back man. If she faced such trauma then it's not going away. It is what it is, you tried to salvage it, It didn't work. It's not your fault, neither is it hers. Sometimes, such things happen and it gets out of control. Stop wasting your own time and move on.
….why didn’t you work through this before getting married…?
You’re 22. You need to be exploring other things and relationships. Don’t focus on this anymore. Easy to say, harder to do. Take a solo vacation. You need some alone time, then some growth time.
Bro. Lol.
Sounds like he's getting pressure from somewhere to produce an heir. You've been married 3 years and no kids yet, my guess is his parents are up his ass about it. He's horny is also probably playing a big part. You are readily accessible due to the unfortunate forced marriage.
Get on birth control immediately.
Go slow with dating him. What you don't want is to get pregnant thinking you are both falling for each other only to find out his only interest was planting a baby in you to shut his family up and then he completely ignores you and the child, just playing superdad when the family come around for appearances.
Question whether or not what you are feeling is legitimate or is it more like a Stockholm Syndrome situation. You don't have to go back to hating him, but be cautious about what you are really feeling and whether he feels the same way or is love-bombing as a means to an end. Be very aware of if he diverts the conversations away from the topic, talks in circles, uses a lot of word salad. If you can't get straight answers to straight questions. Don't trust him.
I wouldn’t care. Honestly, I’d probably be happy that I found a guy who cared about his appearance and skin and would just want him to be open and honest with me
This isn't about your boyfriend.
If this man is doing this to you, then he is doing it to other women who work for him and how dangerous he becomes will depend on how vulnerable they are.
Someone needs to speak out.
Stop projecting that there is something wrong with YOU. It has nothing to do with your looks, or personality. Stop making excuses for him. You are worthy of a man who respects you, and loves you. If he won't answer you it is because he doesn't want to admit the truth – he still has feelings for his ex. It has nothing to do with him wanting to protect you from your insecurities.
That was my thought. Also stop making major decisions shitface drunk. Wtf
Have y’all had other fights like this? This sounds like one of those issues people make up out of thin air bc they want out of the relationship. Something isn’t right here.
My doc told me to get up and go pee immediately after and then again 20 minutes later. That does mean I need to chug a glass of water after the first round, which is a PITA, but worth it to avoid UTI’s.