ok that's long enough to expect to spend time together on xmas. She is not treating you like an important part of her life, IMO.
I would consider it was about trying not to let you and the kid be too attached (which is a valid concern, don't take that personally). But it's not like she was home with the kid, she went out to a bar. So this doesn't seem to have anything to do with the kid, she just would rather see her friends. And also her friends (who she deliberately chooses to spend her time with) seem like huge assholes. Your friends are a reflection of yourself. If one of my friends acts like a dick, I will call them out on it. If they consistently act like a dick, I'm not going to be their friend anymore. It isn't that hot. She is probably also an asshole to some extent if she hasn't ditched these people.
Do a paternity test. Make sure your son isn’t aware though, this is just to make your hubby STFU. Also, I would def reconsider being married to someone who bullies my kid.
Eeeeyyyyy there we go, turn this right back around on the dude and completely ignore her actions and the reason for this post. Knew it wouldn’t take long for one of you to show up!
What do you have to apologize for??? He's the one that did wrong not you. Also, his explanation does NOT address why he and Britt needed to hike as a couple of why she never even knew you existed. You did not make a mistake you are correct the first time around. The whole co parenting a dog is a bullshit excuse to keep her in his life, whether him or her exploiting the dog for that purpose. Taking him back brings this woman back into your life when really you deserve a man who has all in common with you and no strings attached to someone else.
Talk to him about this. My husband and I switch positions every 2nd day because otherwise it feels “looser”. Its not always about the face. Just talk to him about it, tell him how you feel. Be open and honest, but do not start accusing him of things before you know how things stand.
You can’t control how he behaves. There’s no way for you to articulate what you want without him getting mad unless you’re articulating what he wants. He’s shown you time and time again he is way is the only way. And you backing down when he gets angry just solidifies that if he gets angry he’ll get what he wants.
Personally, when two lives are engrained for song long, you might find a relationship councillor to be helpful. They specialize in separations, not just fixing relationships. It might do you good to have someone to talk to solo before bringing up the news, or some solo sessions then bring your bf to one for the actual breakup.
You cannot change the mother's thoughts, but even if it is, you can tell your ex the truth and that is already very helpful for you and him.
ok that's long enough to expect to spend time together on xmas. She is not treating you like an important part of her life, IMO.
I would consider it was about trying not to let you and the kid be too attached (which is a valid concern, don't take that personally). But it's not like she was home with the kid, she went out to a bar. So this doesn't seem to have anything to do with the kid, she just would rather see her friends. And also her friends (who she deliberately chooses to spend her time with) seem like huge assholes. Your friends are a reflection of yourself. If one of my friends acts like a dick, I will call them out on it. If they consistently act like a dick, I'm not going to be their friend anymore. It isn't that hot. She is probably also an asshole to some extent if she hasn't ditched these people.
Do a paternity test. Make sure your son isn’t aware though, this is just to make your hubby STFU. Also, I would def reconsider being married to someone who bullies my kid.
To the person who replied to me. Yes the relationship could continue if my partner instantly declined the offer
Omg thank you . That’s the funniest and best advise I received today. Thank you. The problem ist that she would probably die from laughter XD
Tbh I wouldn’t get back together with someone even with just the knowledge that they slept with a teenager while they were in their late 20s ?
Edit pls??
This is disgusting human behavior, those animals deserve better. Rehome them, who cares if wife and kid are upset.
Eeeeyyyyy there we go, turn this right back around on the dude and completely ignore her actions and the reason for this post. Knew it wouldn’t take long for one of you to show up!
I don’t get it. What is a sidecat?
What do you have to apologize for??? He's the one that did wrong not you. Also, his explanation does NOT address why he and Britt needed to hike as a couple of why she never even knew you existed. You did not make a mistake you are correct the first time around. The whole co parenting a dog is a bullshit excuse to keep her in his life, whether him or her exploiting the dog for that purpose. Taking him back brings this woman back into your life when really you deserve a man who has all in common with you and no strings attached to someone else.
He needs to get a restraining order against both of them, get a lawyer to write a letter saying if she sends pics he'll press charges for revenge porn
Talk to him about this. My husband and I switch positions every 2nd day because otherwise it feels “looser”. Its not always about the face. Just talk to him about it, tell him how you feel. Be open and honest, but do not start accusing him of things before you know how things stand.
You can’t control how he behaves. There’s no way for you to articulate what you want without him getting mad unless you’re articulating what he wants. He’s shown you time and time again he is way is the only way. And you backing down when he gets angry just solidifies that if he gets angry he’ll get what he wants.
Personally, when two lives are engrained for song long, you might find a relationship councillor to be helpful. They specialize in separations, not just fixing relationships. It might do you good to have someone to talk to solo before bringing up the news, or some solo sessions then bring your bf to one for the actual breakup.
Honestly the childcare isn't an issue