I’m guessing you grew up in a relatively small town or city? People don’t like anyone changing their status quo. If you got healthy (and better educated and more confident) after moving to a bigger city they’ll automatically associate that with you now thinking you’re better than them and resent it. As you can see, if you stay there they will try to drag you back down to their level.
Honestly it’s a shitty situation all around. It sounds like the family sucks, and it sounds like the husband sucks, and OP doesn’t see it. She’s probably screwed metaphorically and physically, because she seems to want to get away from the abusive family that she ends up being groomed. And groomers look for that sort of situation.
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How do you even know she followed them 😀 I have no idea how many people my bf is following right now, I can't imagine to keep track of that and search for the new people he follows.
He definitely thinks you are less then then him. I mean he knows there are pronunciation differences. It isn't big deal or naked to remember. It is a fact not an opinion but “he still may do it again because he isn't perfect” is a bs excuse for doing it
You can’t justify saying it, but that’s totally beside the point. You can apologize and all and she’ll have to figure out if that was so awful that she wants to break things off. But so do you! Kids are a huge decision and I recommend putting a hold on wedding planning until you can both agree wholeheartedly one way or another. Or just go separate directions sadly.
So that’s wasn’t really a prank, that was just him saying a thing to get you angry. Maybe John didn’t mean to be a jerk, maybe that’s his sense of humor, but that’s not cool with you and you have every right to set that boundary.
Did you talk to your wife or John about this situation at all and how it made you feel?
It's tricky. Like it is absolutely true that if at this point she stopped her streak and avoided contact [ostensibly soft blocking] she would absolutely create tension in the group. Remember that she is basically stuck with them until the end of the school year so likely she doesn't want to kick the boat, especially when she is correct that likely she will be hit on a bunch over time. From a pragmatic point of view I see where she is coming from.
And look, it sucks. It sucks that her friend made such a gaudy pass at her and that at only 18 she is so used to dealing with shitty men that she just rolls with it to avoid the conflict. It'd be nice if she could tell him to go eat spiders but she'd potentially be putting herself in a very bad position if she alienated them.
You move out without him knowing and you leave.
Well the post is deleted so now I can’t point to the words. You’re still being annoying. Bye.
Thank you! I would expect this from my bf as well. It can be easily shut down but he let it happen.
I’m guessing you grew up in a relatively small town or city? People don’t like anyone changing their status quo. If you got healthy (and better educated and more confident) after moving to a bigger city they’ll automatically associate that with you now thinking you’re better than them and resent it. As you can see, if you stay there they will try to drag you back down to their level.
She needs to be evaluated for PPD/PPA.
Honestly it’s a shitty situation all around. It sounds like the family sucks, and it sounds like the husband sucks, and OP doesn’t see it. She’s probably screwed metaphorically and physically, because she seems to want to get away from the abusive family that she ends up being groomed. And groomers look for that sort of situation.
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So your answer is to put your wife in a situation where should might have to deal with it, alone?
How do you even know she followed them 😀 I have no idea how many people my bf is following right now, I can't imagine to keep track of that and search for the new people he follows.
I didn't say anything about horny pigs. I'm saying a low sex drive in a male his age isn't normal. It's your life hun, not mine. ??♀️
Idk that's why I'm asking yall. Maybe I'm being irrational??
He definitely thinks you are less then then him. I mean he knows there are pronunciation differences. It isn't big deal or naked to remember. It is a fact not an opinion but “he still may do it again because he isn't perfect” is a bs excuse for doing it
You can’t justify saying it, but that’s totally beside the point. You can apologize and all and she’ll have to figure out if that was so awful that she wants to break things off. But so do you! Kids are a huge decision and I recommend putting a hold on wedding planning until you can both agree wholeheartedly one way or another. Or just go separate directions sadly.
So that’s wasn’t really a prank, that was just him saying a thing to get you angry. Maybe John didn’t mean to be a jerk, maybe that’s his sense of humor, but that’s not cool with you and you have every right to set that boundary.
Did you talk to your wife or John about this situation at all and how it made you feel?
It's tricky. Like it is absolutely true that if at this point she stopped her streak and avoided contact [ostensibly soft blocking] she would absolutely create tension in the group. Remember that she is basically stuck with them until the end of the school year so likely she doesn't want to kick the boat, especially when she is correct that likely she will be hit on a bunch over time. From a pragmatic point of view I see where she is coming from.
And look, it sucks. It sucks that her friend made such a gaudy pass at her and that at only 18 she is so used to dealing with shitty men that she just rolls with it to avoid the conflict. It'd be nice if she could tell him to go eat spiders but she'd potentially be putting herself in a very bad position if she alienated them.