That’s a different scenario, he was a lot younger than you. And one year at that age makes a HUGE difference. 2 years in the mid to late 20ies not so much.
You were both betrayed in different ways and remember this. You did nothing wrong. Don’t be surprised if your sister has to work through some resentment of how the situation came to be, but she will work through it and you will both be better off for not having adulterers in your life.
dude OP is offended!!!! like wtf how is she ever going to feel adequate or at peace again when hes off lying and looking at sexy girls dance around a pole for hoursssss while shes at home cleaning up after a newborn and dealing w a whole postpartum mess of insecurity and hormones. like she should go stay w her parents and let this loser go
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My sister has been with her boyfriend for a little over a year. I am irritated by him, not sure why, it could be due to him being invited to everything and my partner, who is the father of our teenage children, never gets asked to attend.
We have had issues in the past which may have altered their opinion of him – nothing serious, was just money management issues (he was not good with money back then). This was when our children were very young 2/3 years old. He is very financially savvy now.
It didn’t bother me before as we would go out as just us as a family, but now it’s like they are throwing it in my face. If something is booked, I find out on the day or when we arrive, that my sister’s boyfriend is attending, so no notice to arrange for my partner to come (buy a ticket for a show etc) If I bring it up, I’ve done so twice, my mother says ‘well he could have come’ but he is never asked and I wouldn’t invite anyone to an event without the person organising it, asking first. It’s like being invited to a party and bringing an extra guest when you’ve RSVP’d as just you attending!
I just don’t know what to do anymore. Am I just overreacting? I feel like I’m being a spoilt brat at times if I mention it, whilst at the same time feeling like it’s completely justified.
He calmly explained to me that, he meant it talking from a medical perspective, not as a comment towards our relationship. Also, having been divorced before, he understands that people’s relationship change through time even tho it’s working perfectly at one point in time. That he doesn’t intend to break up with me and he sees the future with me.
When you live! with someone it is wildly disrespectful to have people over without giving them some forewarning. Wife should have given some warning. When people come home they should be able to be themselves and at peace. You have to fake smile at work all day. When you come home you should be able to feel how you feel and if you can’t at the very least someone should let you know beforehand that you need to fake smile for another few hours. I would have a conversation with your wife that she needs to let you know when people are over beforehand. You could apologize for being rude just to keep the peace but your wife is rude and selfish.
We wanted a dessert that was not too expensive. There was an occasional white cake that was damaged, smeared the writing. I asked for it. We then had fun trying to figure out what the words were. We declared “Bost Weenie” day and ate the cake. Every year on March 5th I bring home a hand icing attempt of this cake. I got better.
Do you need to know that he is definitely cheating??
I would say that whether you have proof or not, trust is broken and the relationship is over. You need to pick up your things and move on. Once you get to this stage, its only going in one direction and its up to you to decide how much further time you’re willing to waste.
Plus, about not showing you his phone? BOLLOCKS!!! If my husband ever felt worried that there was something going on, I’d be tripping iver myself trying to unlock my phone for him and go through evry nitty gritty thing to aleviate his fears. I wouldnt want him to worry.
Thank you! This is definitely going to be a nude conversation to have but I do need to just do it
Either accept its casual or get rid of this girl
Do not marry this trash. She played you for years. She is an manipulative pos. Figure out your break up and ghost her.
You let this happen. She is gone now bud
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That’s a different scenario, he was a lot younger than you. And one year at that age makes a HUGE difference. 2 years in the mid to late 20ies not so much.
Lmao…sign me up!
You were both betrayed in different ways and remember this. You did nothing wrong. Don’t be surprised if your sister has to work through some resentment of how the situation came to be, but she will work through it and you will both be better off for not having adulterers in your life.
I don't know, but we used a condom because STD's are real, so even if she wasn't on BC, protection was still used.
dude OP is offended!!!! like wtf how is she ever going to feel adequate or at peace again when hes off lying and looking at sexy girls dance around a pole for hoursssss while shes at home cleaning up after a newborn and dealing w a whole postpartum mess of insecurity and hormones. like she should go stay w her parents and let this loser go
My office is on another floor in our house, but i tend to get loud with friends and she hears like a bat through 2 doors and concrete.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
My sister has been with her boyfriend for a little over a year. I am irritated by him, not sure why, it could be due to him being invited to everything and my partner, who is the father of our teenage children, never gets asked to attend.
We have had issues in the past which may have altered their opinion of him – nothing serious, was just money management issues (he was not good with money back then). This was when our children were very young 2/3 years old. He is very financially savvy now.
It didn’t bother me before as we would go out as just us as a family, but now it’s like they are throwing it in my face. If something is booked, I find out on the day or when we arrive, that my sister’s boyfriend is attending, so no notice to arrange for my partner to come (buy a ticket for a show etc) If I bring it up, I’ve done so twice, my mother says ‘well he could have come’ but he is never asked and I wouldn’t invite anyone to an event without the person organising it, asking first. It’s like being invited to a party and bringing an extra guest when you’ve RSVP’d as just you attending!
I just don’t know what to do anymore. Am I just overreacting? I feel like I’m being a spoilt brat at times if I mention it, whilst at the same time feeling like it’s completely justified.
If you are insecure… do not ask about previous partners. Just dont.
He calmly explained to me that, he meant it talking from a medical perspective, not as a comment towards our relationship. Also, having been divorced before, he understands that people’s relationship change through time even tho it’s working perfectly at one point in time. That he doesn’t intend to break up with me and he sees the future with me.
Completely understandable.
When you live! with someone it is wildly disrespectful to have people over without giving them some forewarning. Wife should have given some warning. When people come home they should be able to be themselves and at peace. You have to fake smile at work all day. When you come home you should be able to feel how you feel and if you can’t at the very least someone should let you know beforehand that you need to fake smile for another few hours. I would have a conversation with your wife that she needs to let you know when people are over beforehand. You could apologize for being rude just to keep the peace but your wife is rude and selfish.
That's lame. I love eating my gfs pussy
We wanted a dessert that was not too expensive. There was an occasional white cake that was damaged, smeared the writing. I asked for it. We then had fun trying to figure out what the words were. We declared “Bost Weenie” day and ate the cake. Every year on March 5th I bring home a hand icing attempt of this cake. I got better.
The messed up part is he told her it was ok and he didn't really care, so that he could still fuck her, then broke up with her over text afterwards.
Do you need to know that he is definitely cheating??
I would say that whether you have proof or not, trust is broken and the relationship is over. You need to pick up your things and move on. Once you get to this stage, its only going in one direction and its up to you to decide how much further time you’re willing to waste.
Plus, about not showing you his phone? BOLLOCKS!!! If my husband ever felt worried that there was something going on, I’d be tripping iver myself trying to unlock my phone for him and go through evry nitty gritty thing to aleviate his fears. I wouldnt want him to worry.
Your man is lying!!