Before you cheated, you should have ended it. Do her a huge favor and just have the talk already. You have hurt her a lot by now by cheating on her even if she doesn't know. You are a coward.
Me and the guy I’ve been dating for the last few months cooked two meals together last Sunday. There were long stretches of time that we didn’t speak where he was chopping vegetables or washing dishes and I was seasoning chicken and starting pots. In my mind I wondered if it was weird that we weren’t speaking. Shouldn’t we be unable to stop gabbing? And then I realized it was kind of nice that we could do something simple together that both of us would normally be doing alone and still be comfortable coexisting quietly in that space. I think I even laughed and mentioned how nice it was to cook with someone and not have it be a bunch of bumping into each other and fussing, the way my mom used to do if anyone was in the kitchen while she was cooking.
Sometimes we just lie in bed together in silence. Or in the car heading somewhere. Again, at first it made me nervous… maybe I’m boring? But then I realized-it was a relief to be cuddled up with someone or going somewhere together, not doing anything but simply enjoying the peace of the moment
Yeah, I failed to mention he had trust issues with his ex. Obviously I know that has affected his judgement on this. I want to help him and be supportive but I agree boundaries are in order.
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First, your boundaries are not dumb. I think they're reasonable. He definitely wants to go to a topless bar because he wants to see tits. And he is gaslighting you.
Second, I am from Southern California. No, the women do NOT walk around topless. I have no idea where he got that idea. That's just utter bs.
I was very confused when he said his friends said to talk to me. I think I got hung up on that, like they approved of the idea, but I was just so in shock I didn’t ask him exactly what he said to them. I’m very torn, but knowing my instinct to say no was not selfish helpful. Thanks for responding.
They're not even exclusive yet
Before you cheated, you should have ended it. Do her a huge favor and just have the talk already. You have hurt her a lot by now by cheating on her even if she doesn't know. You are a coward.
Ffs. What principle is that?
Me and the guy I’ve been dating for the last few months cooked two meals together last Sunday. There were long stretches of time that we didn’t speak where he was chopping vegetables or washing dishes and I was seasoning chicken and starting pots. In my mind I wondered if it was weird that we weren’t speaking. Shouldn’t we be unable to stop gabbing? And then I realized it was kind of nice that we could do something simple together that both of us would normally be doing alone and still be comfortable coexisting quietly in that space. I think I even laughed and mentioned how nice it was to cook with someone and not have it be a bunch of bumping into each other and fussing, the way my mom used to do if anyone was in the kitchen while she was cooking.
Sometimes we just lie in bed together in silence. Or in the car heading somewhere. Again, at first it made me nervous… maybe I’m boring? But then I realized-it was a relief to be cuddled up with someone or going somewhere together, not doing anything but simply enjoying the peace of the moment
Yeah, I failed to mention he had trust issues with his ex. Obviously I know that has affected his judgement on this. I want to help him and be supportive but I agree boundaries are in order.
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Oh. My. God.
First, your boundaries are not dumb. I think they're reasonable. He definitely wants to go to a topless bar because he wants to see tits. And he is gaslighting you.
Second, I am from Southern California. No, the women do NOT walk around topless. I have no idea where he got that idea. That's just utter bs.
Your husband doesn't respect you.
Its very hot because hes never hit me but somehow I'm so often living in fear
in the bedroom, under the bed, or in a closet or drawer. not for every guest or visitor to see.
** Ho
He's an idiot then
The stupid lord thing lol is “legit” insofar as it’s a real thing
Don't knock that
I'm Irish and I can tell you that I can print off a nice piece of paper making him a lord of a square inch of my back garden*
*colour coats extra
Jesus Christ no way ppl really do thst
I was very confused when he said his friends said to talk to me. I think I got hung up on that, like they approved of the idea, but I was just so in shock I didn’t ask him exactly what he said to them. I’m very torn, but knowing my instinct to say no was not selfish helpful. Thanks for responding.