Do you know why they broke up? What the chances are of this ex coming back? I’ve personally gone back to exes several times and it never worked out any of the times. It was a total waste of my time thinking they changed. If you both have feelings and are attracted to each other, you should try, but give her time to work through her emotions. It’s not fair to you for her to be with you if she’s thinking of someone else.
Your husband fucked up and he wants YOU to tell him how to fix it?!?!
This is HIS PROBLEM.
Your message to him should now be:
“I have had time to think about this.
You fucked up things by often prioritizing your friend. It isn't my job to help you fix this. You need to spend the mental work figuring out a solution to something you fucked up.
Stop asking me what you need to do to fix this. I don't know the answer.
YOU broke this. YOU figure it out.”
He's trying to put the WORK on you to solve this. Fuck that.
It still isn't prioritizing you, it is giving you homework.
maybe incorporate sexy body lotion application into foreplay? i had a partner who used to put on my lotion for me and it was great. sounds like a fun compromise
I mean emotionally cheating is def a thing, and makes total sense because the emotional connection with your partner should be just as if not more important than the sexual connection. Financial cheating, IDK about that one. You can certainly be abused financially and you can use your money to facilitate cheating, but that is a new one to me.
Yea I can see what you're saying if me and the girl had STAYED friends since we broke up in middle school but we lost contact after that and she just recently hit me up again to catch up. So it kinda is kinda isn't a newer friendship in a way. But we did already hang out once before me and girlfriend got together. Idk if that means anything.
Sounds like you have a fundamental incompatibility as to what equates cheating. It's only going to lead to resentment if you don't find some common ground or part ways.
Or hurt the poor thing.
Do you know why they broke up? What the chances are of this ex coming back? I’ve personally gone back to exes several times and it never worked out any of the times. It was a total waste of my time thinking they changed. If you both have feelings and are attracted to each other, you should try, but give her time to work through her emotions. It’s not fair to you for her to be with you if she’s thinking of someone else.
*definitely
This!!!
On a hope that it will change someday
It's a difficult one but I personally would. Let him know that you're unambiguously on his side though.
Lmao I’m younger than her and I find it funny lmao what was he even thinking entertaining someone so young lol.
It sounds like he wants a long engagement and you’re in a rush to get married. He should have communicated that with you if he felt that way.
Have another conversation about it, explain how you feel and ask him how long he wants to wait.
Your husband fucked up and he wants YOU to tell him how to fix it?!?!
This is HIS PROBLEM.
Your message to him should now be:
“I have had time to think about this.
You fucked up things by often prioritizing your friend. It isn't my job to help you fix this. You need to spend the mental work figuring out a solution to something you fucked up.
Stop asking me what you need to do to fix this. I don't know the answer.
YOU broke this. YOU figure it out.”
He's trying to put the WORK on you to solve this. Fuck that.
It still isn't prioritizing you, it is giving you homework.
maybe incorporate sexy body lotion application into foreplay? i had a partner who used to put on my lotion for me and it was great. sounds like a fun compromise
I mean emotionally cheating is def a thing, and makes total sense because the emotional connection with your partner should be just as if not more important than the sexual connection. Financial cheating, IDK about that one. You can certainly be abused financially and you can use your money to facilitate cheating, but that is a new one to me.
Yea I can see what you're saying if me and the girl had STAYED friends since we broke up in middle school but we lost contact after that and she just recently hit me up again to catch up. So it kinda is kinda isn't a newer friendship in a way. But we did already hang out once before me and girlfriend got together. Idk if that means anything.
Sounds like you have a fundamental incompatibility as to what equates cheating. It's only going to lead to resentment if you don't find some common ground or part ways.
Block him and move on, he embarrassed you in front of everyone for what??
He excuses are stupid he probably didn't think she would tell you, now he saying ohh that was the plan all along.
Just block him and move on