Break up with her and file sexual assault charges. It is illegal in most states to knowingly have a STD and not inform a sexual partner. She lied to you to get you to have unprotected sex and infected you. She KNEW she could spread it without an outbreak- every doctor she saw would've informed her!
Look let me tell a story, my mom was a extraordinary woman, that my dad cheated on in numerous occasions, she didn't forgive him but he continue with him, for my brother and i, and her numerous health condition, with that I'm not saying that she perfect, no, but my dad did prove himself as good partner later.
They married after and they live together until my mother died two years ago.
My grandma have a similar story and even worst because my grandpa did have numerous children outside the marriage, but they make it through because my grandpa loved my grandma so much
People change, the problem is that if you are willing to love a person with mistakes and flaws, i'm not telling you to forgive and forget, and if i were you i would make him work for it, but if he is willing, try to start again as a couple if it works, good, if not well it didn't work at least you can say, i try
Also i love that you are aware how your history affect you, because it does, and you are aware of yourself. I don't gonna mention your child because even if he is factor, a big one, if you don't feel in yourself to give a chance, no matter what, he isn't responsable for this.
In conclusion you are the one that you have to decide, because is your pride, your heart and your life
I hope give you a different perspective, because i know how hurt can drive you to make decisions that you should think about good luck
There’s multiple partners for each person in this world that are compatible and would have a happy life together. When you truly love someone though and you make the commitment of a lifetime together, when you bump into one of those people you don’t indulge in flirtation. There’s nothing wrong with mentally acknowledging the persons looks, similar interests, whatever but you don’t flirt, you don’t touch each other in appropriately nor do you give the other person the impression they are able to do that to you. Nor do true friends or trustworthy partners.
You’re amazing, you’re a catch, you deserve love. This “fiancé” and “friend” of yours aren’t doing the right things nor being respectful of you and your feelings.
They could be hinting at a throuple. (Three person relationship). But even then, they should speak to you first, or he should have before each other and before flirting with each other.
I’d bring it up with each of them separately. That you’ve noticed the flirting, dressing up, inappropriate touching, etc. What’s up? It’s not ok. Etc.
She needed 200 for rent but 1500 for a car payment? Who can drive a car with a payment like that without having the income to cover it. I’ve never heard of anyone I know having that big a car payment. That math ain’t mathin. And what was your solution for the 200?
See it like this: Who else did he tell about this? This is a guy he barely know and he brag about every shit you do. So what does he tell to friends? You just don't know because you have no contact to them/there gf don't tell them.
He is nearly 30 and behaves like a teenager who needs to brag around to his friends. And this is your workplace. Do you want that everybody knows what you do with him? You sleep with him and everybody in his surroundings and your workplace knows every detail. Which underwear you wore, if you came, the position, how your body looks…. And hey, maybe he makes photos or videos, it is easier for his publikum. He will show around every sexy message, or nude pic. Privacy? Can you eat this.
I also don't want to tell you what to do, but: You work in a Taco place. This isn't such a big place to get out of the way of each other. So before dating someone, think about what happens if the thing go south. You have an awful work situation. There are so many nice men outside of your workplace, you don't need to date where you work.
she may be comfortable with him housing her and her getting (previously) sex and other needs met while still “keeping her options open”. If she is not actively pursuing another lover, the loss of her comfortable situation may not be worth the having of an un-excersized option.
It is just conjecture. I agree that logically if she doesn't want commitment and he does they should split. People do not always think or act logically, though.
Time to up stakes and move home OP.
There is nothing in this new place for you any more.
Break up with her and file sexual assault charges. It is illegal in most states to knowingly have a STD and not inform a sexual partner. She lied to you to get you to have unprotected sex and infected you. She KNEW she could spread it without an outbreak- every doctor she saw would've informed her!
Look let me tell a story, my mom was a extraordinary woman, that my dad cheated on in numerous occasions, she didn't forgive him but he continue with him, for my brother and i, and her numerous health condition, with that I'm not saying that she perfect, no, but my dad did prove himself as good partner later.
They married after and they live together until my mother died two years ago.
My grandma have a similar story and even worst because my grandpa did have numerous children outside the marriage, but they make it through because my grandpa loved my grandma so much
People change, the problem is that if you are willing to love a person with mistakes and flaws, i'm not telling you to forgive and forget, and if i were you i would make him work for it, but if he is willing, try to start again as a couple if it works, good, if not well it didn't work at least you can say, i try
Also i love that you are aware how your history affect you, because it does, and you are aware of yourself. I don't gonna mention your child because even if he is factor, a big one, if you don't feel in yourself to give a chance, no matter what, he isn't responsable for this.
In conclusion you are the one that you have to decide, because is your pride, your heart and your life
I hope give you a different perspective, because i know how hurt can drive you to make decisions that you should think about good luck
People like this don't change. He's showing you how he lives. Leave or accept him like this.
There’s multiple partners for each person in this world that are compatible and would have a happy life together. When you truly love someone though and you make the commitment of a lifetime together, when you bump into one of those people you don’t indulge in flirtation. There’s nothing wrong with mentally acknowledging the persons looks, similar interests, whatever but you don’t flirt, you don’t touch each other in appropriately nor do you give the other person the impression they are able to do that to you. Nor do true friends or trustworthy partners.
You’re amazing, you’re a catch, you deserve love. This “fiancé” and “friend” of yours aren’t doing the right things nor being respectful of you and your feelings.
They could be hinting at a throuple. (Three person relationship). But even then, they should speak to you first, or he should have before each other and before flirting with each other.
I’d bring it up with each of them separately. That you’ve noticed the flirting, dressing up, inappropriate touching, etc. What’s up? It’s not ok. Etc.
She needed 200 for rent but 1500 for a car payment? Who can drive a car with a payment like that without having the income to cover it. I’ve never heard of anyone I know having that big a car payment. That math ain’t mathin. And what was your solution for the 200?
That’s not completely true. It can be religious but a lot of the topics that are covered are not like Hebrew language and Jewish history.
See it like this: Who else did he tell about this? This is a guy he barely know and he brag about every shit you do. So what does he tell to friends? You just don't know because you have no contact to them/there gf don't tell them.
He is nearly 30 and behaves like a teenager who needs to brag around to his friends. And this is your workplace. Do you want that everybody knows what you do with him? You sleep with him and everybody in his surroundings and your workplace knows every detail. Which underwear you wore, if you came, the position, how your body looks…. And hey, maybe he makes photos or videos, it is easier for his publikum. He will show around every sexy message, or nude pic. Privacy? Can you eat this.
I also don't want to tell you what to do, but: You work in a Taco place. This isn't such a big place to get out of the way of each other. So before dating someone, think about what happens if the thing go south. You have an awful work situation. There are so many nice men outside of your workplace, you don't need to date where you work.
she may be comfortable with him housing her and her getting (previously) sex and other needs met while still “keeping her options open”. If she is not actively pursuing another lover, the loss of her comfortable situation may not be worth the having of an un-excersized option.
It is just conjecture. I agree that logically if she doesn't want commitment and he does they should split. People do not always think or act logically, though.