I'm glad you're starting to try to take care of yourself. Obviously this so called boyfriend has no interest in taking care of you and I hope you dump him! Remember, a good partner is an actual partner. You two should be a team in life.
I'm worried about how bad your health got. Mental health, but also physical! Do you have a primary care doctor, one that you see for yearly check ups? If not, I think you should find one. You need to have one established that you can call when you're having health problems. It's a lot easier to get simple prescriptions for things like nausea when you already have a doctor you go to regularly. You shouldn't have to suffer so much!
I also think you should see a doctor and tell them about your experience and your current mental state. Primary care doctors do depression evaluations all the time. You understandably can't talk to your family about this, but you still need to reach out for help. A doctor- not the clinic doctor, but a primary care doctor- can get you started getting that help. What you're going through is absolutely understandable, but you can't do this alone!
This is a smokescreen. It needs to be a condition of you remaining in the marriage or this behaviour will not stop. He had no problem shaming you publicly for this outrageous thing and throwing your whole family away.
You're not going to fix him. He doesn't respect you. He doesn't respect your relationship. He doesn't respect your son. That's it. Don't let your son grow up watching his father shit all over his marriage. You should leave. You and your child deserve better.
I should’ve also added that I know she has bad anxiety, and that she worries about a lot. When we are together a majority of the time it feels really good, but then out of nowhere she mentions how she is scared we might not work, or mentions a red flag about me that makes her uncertain. I guess that i like that she usually is honest and seems genuine
The worst part is that he’s literally my neighbor 2 doors down?
I'm glad you're starting to try to take care of yourself. Obviously this so called boyfriend has no interest in taking care of you and I hope you dump him! Remember, a good partner is an actual partner. You two should be a team in life.
I'm worried about how bad your health got. Mental health, but also physical! Do you have a primary care doctor, one that you see for yearly check ups? If not, I think you should find one. You need to have one established that you can call when you're having health problems. It's a lot easier to get simple prescriptions for things like nausea when you already have a doctor you go to regularly. You shouldn't have to suffer so much!
I also think you should see a doctor and tell them about your experience and your current mental state. Primary care doctors do depression evaluations all the time. You understandably can't talk to your family about this, but you still need to reach out for help. A doctor- not the clinic doctor, but a primary care doctor- can get you started getting that help. What you're going through is absolutely understandable, but you can't do this alone!
That's the difference… boundaries WEREN'T set.
If this is how you handle things and communicate, why would kids be a good idea?
This is a smokescreen. It needs to be a condition of you remaining in the marriage or this behaviour will not stop. He had no problem shaming you publicly for this outrageous thing and throwing your whole family away.
You're not going to fix him. He doesn't respect you. He doesn't respect your relationship. He doesn't respect your son. That's it. Don't let your son grow up watching his father shit all over his marriage. You should leave. You and your child deserve better.
I should’ve also added that I know she has bad anxiety, and that she worries about a lot. When we are together a majority of the time it feels really good, but then out of nowhere she mentions how she is scared we might not work, or mentions a red flag about me that makes her uncertain. I guess that i like that she usually is honest and seems genuine