You literally ignored the dudes calls for 2 days. What did you expect would happen ? Also, hes 15 years older anyways so chances are yall wouldnt have worked out anyways.
Wow so needing sex for validation makes you a therapy requiring hoe..! I assume needing kindness and caring makes you a bascet case sucker. FFS relationship ships is a package deal and both parties goes into it with what they bring as well as their own needs and expectations. And a hearth can be broken and hurt in many ways, you dont get a pass because you slowly smothered the love to death instead of bringing a hammer
Manipulation, isolation. Red flag red flag. Get out of there now.
You do not need him. He wants you to need him because he is probably an abusive piece of shit. He wants you to choose? Choose friends who care and leave that idiot behind and online hour best life without him.
If you feel like you have to hide a relationship from your close friends i would just walk away. Also I understand he shows that he is remorseful, but has he ever done anything to apologize for his actions.
Honestly, this isn’t the thing breaking you two up.
It sounds like she fell out of love, realized she doesn’t feel good about being together, and got curious about exploring other options and wants to experiment with others. It’s not because you OP are bad at sex, she is just saying it as an excuse. It’s because she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore. She doesn’t want to try to make it work between the two of you.
For some women it’s harder to cum than others, tons of women never have orgasms with their partner but can orgasm on their own but even then not all the time. Some women never orgasm despite enjoying sex and masturbation. It’s not a one technique fits all kind of situation, everyone is different and the main thing is you have to feel fully comfortable and relaxed with your partner to get there. If you don’t feel completely comfortable, if you don’t feel loved and in love with your partner, that’s just how it is. It’s not your fault. It’s best you find a girl who is thrilled to be with you and is your willing to try to make it work.
Bro. She’s not gonna figure it out tomorrow, she’s not going to figure it out next year, and it’s not gonna be figured out anytime soon.
If you push for what you want over her wants, she is going to spite you. But if you let her have it, she wants over your wants, you’re gonna be spiteful. You’re 18 and she’s 19. Trust me on this one but people will change their minds a lot.
In My personal experience here, once a relationship needs a break in your circumstances, it’s done.
But hey, you’re young, you think you got it all figured out so you wouldn’t listen to me and I say you don’t have to. You just have to learn things the nude way to realize whether I’m wrong or right.
I think that’s even a more valid point that it’s time to move and go your separate ways. You can start the conversation that way. It gives you a little bit of an out.
Just because they don't exist does not mean that she did not have romantic feelings for them, as well as fantasies, which she has admitted to both of those. As well as she would have a similar reaction to me having this type of stuff.
Honestly gay, straight, bi, whatever…I honestly feel like sexuality changes over time or maybe it’s fluid idk, and our interests can change over times as well. It doesn’t matter what you call yourself or what you are as long as you are happy. Being happy with yourself is the one of the most important things. If you and him like each other, then go for it. Maybe talk to him and say hey I wanted to talk about the other night, are you ok? I know it was different, and I just want you to know if you want to talk I’m here. Also you are still my friend no matter what.
I think what you're feeling is that you want her to be exclusively yours. Rationally, you know that she isn't yours in any kind of romantic way, and that she probably never will be. You acted rationally by containing your feelings, and that's what you need to keep doing.
Honestly if your STBX husband actually loved you and really wanted to reconcile, he’d probably want you to keep the baby. You tried for 14 years, so he must know how badly you want a child. Someone who loves you wouldn’t try to take that away from you. I’m not sure why some men get so crazy about only raising kids with their own DNA, but he has an opportunity to be a father finally and instead he wants you to abort so you can…try again? Why would you try again when you already successfully conceived!?
He sounds like a bitter man who can’t fathom it’s his fault you couldn’t conceive, and has a “if you’re not gonna have a baby with me you’re not gonna have a baby at all!” attitude. You’d likely both be resentful of each other due to this whole situation and separate again later anyways, and by then hed have already taken away this chance at motherhood. There’s a total difference between trying for a baby into your 40s and becoming pregnant unexpectedly, so you’re not wrong for not wanting to try anymore and also not wrong for taking advantage of the unexpected. Plus, you already see him as a cheater, so why would you reconcile regardless of anything else?
You want this baby! Keep the baby. Ditch the husband. Live! a happy fulfilling life. All my best decisions have been things my family disapproved of and I couldn’t be happier. They’ll get over it.
I never thought about it like this. I think I have felt like I cannot redeem myself without her approval and validation. I appreciate you for shedding light on this. So how do I move on? I have felt like I do not deserve to be happy unless she is happy. How can I come to terms with the fact that I have hurt her, and that I am doing all I can to become a better person. It just doesn’t feel like I am doing enough.
I know it’s naked to be assertive with family but it’s your wedding. If someone wants to be shitty about one of your decisions they are welcome to not attend. If someone attends and is unhappy about your decisions or says something at the wedding they are welcome to leave. We had some concerns at our wedding and I briefed a few of my groomsmen on the issues so they’d be prepared to help escort anyone out that we needed to escort out. This is an adult thing you are planning and you should just be able to talk to these people like an adult.
This is because tinder sucks. It's easy for a women to get a man. The majority of men either want sex or just attention from women. It doesn't work the other way around.
It's nude even for good looking men to get a girl on tinder.
Pre-cheating is not a thing and if it were every person on the planet would be guilty of it. Massive red flag. Wayyyyy too soon for you two to have the issues you do and already be requesting therapy. Get out.
The problem is that instead of being normal and either breaking up with her, or sticking to his word and stopping porn/rp-ing (a month into the relationship! Just break up ffs), he lied to her and told her he stopped.
And then he proceeded to do it in secret, she would find it, and he'd say he'll stop.. ad infinitum apparently.
I havent looked at her post yet, so this is what im getting from his post.
Like just break up with her. Why put the both of them through this
You don’t love her, yet you are sleeping with her.
You blame HER for your child making fun of his overweight mother, because it sets a “bad example.”
The only bad example I am seeing is the one is a permissive father who allows his child to berate and abuse his mother. What is wrong with you?
You all need therapy. Now. And I am sorry, OP, but you aren’t ready to date yet, as much as you may want to be. Figure out your shit before bringing someone else into the mix.
I'm sorry but you don't know what love is. Love is mutual respect, love is understanding, love is choosing your partner first. Your partner doesn't love you, and you love the idea of your partner, not the actual person. The actual person is just like your father. He didn't look past your baggage, he just confronted you with the biggest piece of baggage and cared nothing about your opinion.
You have to first learn what love is, and love is choosing your wife over traditions.
The boss was there with him. So was able to provide her dob. Not that it makes anything any clearer.
You literally ignored the dudes calls for 2 days. What did you expect would happen ? Also, hes 15 years older anyways so chances are yall wouldnt have worked out anyways.
Wow so needing sex for validation makes you a therapy requiring hoe..! I assume needing kindness and caring makes you a bascet case sucker. FFS relationship ships is a package deal and both parties goes into it with what they bring as well as their own needs and expectations. And a hearth can be broken and hurt in many ways, you dont get a pass because you slowly smothered the love to death instead of bringing a hammer
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Manipulation, isolation. Red flag red flag. Get out of there now.
You do not need him. He wants you to need him because he is probably an abusive piece of shit. He wants you to choose? Choose friends who care and leave that idiot behind and online hour best life without him.
If you feel like you have to hide a relationship from your close friends i would just walk away. Also I understand he shows that he is remorseful, but has he ever done anything to apologize for his actions.
I cried because my husband wouldn’t STOP LOOKING AT ME!
Honestly, this isn’t the thing breaking you two up.
It sounds like she fell out of love, realized she doesn’t feel good about being together, and got curious about exploring other options and wants to experiment with others. It’s not because you OP are bad at sex, she is just saying it as an excuse. It’s because she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore. She doesn’t want to try to make it work between the two of you.
For some women it’s harder to cum than others, tons of women never have orgasms with their partner but can orgasm on their own but even then not all the time. Some women never orgasm despite enjoying sex and masturbation. It’s not a one technique fits all kind of situation, everyone is different and the main thing is you have to feel fully comfortable and relaxed with your partner to get there. If you don’t feel completely comfortable, if you don’t feel loved and in love with your partner, that’s just how it is. It’s not your fault. It’s best you find a girl who is thrilled to be with you and is your willing to try to make it work.
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Bro. She’s not gonna figure it out tomorrow, she’s not going to figure it out next year, and it’s not gonna be figured out anytime soon.
If you push for what you want over her wants, she is going to spite you. But if you let her have it, she wants over your wants, you’re gonna be spiteful. You’re 18 and she’s 19. Trust me on this one but people will change their minds a lot.
In My personal experience here, once a relationship needs a break in your circumstances, it’s done.
But hey, you’re young, you think you got it all figured out so you wouldn’t listen to me and I say you don’t have to. You just have to learn things the nude way to realize whether I’m wrong or right.
If you've told him before and he hasn't changed, then it's because he doesn't care enough to stop. He knows what he's doing.
This situation is sick
I think that’s even a more valid point that it’s time to move and go your separate ways. You can start the conversation that way. It gives you a little bit of an out.
Probably. I feel bad for the kids.
Just because they don't exist does not mean that she did not have romantic feelings for them, as well as fantasies, which she has admitted to both of those. As well as she would have a similar reaction to me having this type of stuff.
Have her get a much better paying job somewhere
Honestly gay, straight, bi, whatever…I honestly feel like sexuality changes over time or maybe it’s fluid idk, and our interests can change over times as well. It doesn’t matter what you call yourself or what you are as long as you are happy. Being happy with yourself is the one of the most important things. If you and him like each other, then go for it. Maybe talk to him and say hey I wanted to talk about the other night, are you ok? I know it was different, and I just want you to know if you want to talk I’m here. Also you are still my friend no matter what.
Absolutely, I only knew how bad it was, after it stopped!!
You mean pubic lice?
Because pubic hairs don't start growing until puberty.
So pubic lice don't have a place to stay, they need hairs after all.
No pubes, no pubic lice.
“Kick his ass, Seabass!”
I think what you're feeling is that you want her to be exclusively yours. Rationally, you know that she isn't yours in any kind of romantic way, and that she probably never will be. You acted rationally by containing your feelings, and that's what you need to keep doing.
Honestly if your STBX husband actually loved you and really wanted to reconcile, he’d probably want you to keep the baby. You tried for 14 years, so he must know how badly you want a child. Someone who loves you wouldn’t try to take that away from you. I’m not sure why some men get so crazy about only raising kids with their own DNA, but he has an opportunity to be a father finally and instead he wants you to abort so you can…try again? Why would you try again when you already successfully conceived!?
He sounds like a bitter man who can’t fathom it’s his fault you couldn’t conceive, and has a “if you’re not gonna have a baby with me you’re not gonna have a baby at all!” attitude. You’d likely both be resentful of each other due to this whole situation and separate again later anyways, and by then hed have already taken away this chance at motherhood. There’s a total difference between trying for a baby into your 40s and becoming pregnant unexpectedly, so you’re not wrong for not wanting to try anymore and also not wrong for taking advantage of the unexpected. Plus, you already see him as a cheater, so why would you reconcile regardless of anything else?
You want this baby! Keep the baby. Ditch the husband. Live! a happy fulfilling life. All my best decisions have been things my family disapproved of and I couldn’t be happier. They’ll get over it.
You what's a really good way to avoid that worst case scenario? DON'T WAIT TO TELL THEM TILL AFTER YOU FUCK THEM. Shocking, I know.
How brain dead do you think teenagers are?
This is unambiguously trash behavior. Hopefully she'll grow up, but he doesn't have to deal with it.
I never thought about it like this. I think I have felt like I cannot redeem myself without her approval and validation. I appreciate you for shedding light on this. So how do I move on? I have felt like I do not deserve to be happy unless she is happy. How can I come to terms with the fact that I have hurt her, and that I am doing all I can to become a better person. It just doesn’t feel like I am doing enough.
This poor cat deserves someone who is better than the both of you. Monsters.
I know it’s naked to be assertive with family but it’s your wedding. If someone wants to be shitty about one of your decisions they are welcome to not attend. If someone attends and is unhappy about your decisions or says something at the wedding they are welcome to leave. We had some concerns at our wedding and I briefed a few of my groomsmen on the issues so they’d be prepared to help escort anyone out that we needed to escort out. This is an adult thing you are planning and you should just be able to talk to these people like an adult.
I can't see anyone's comments except as notifications unfortunately but we've been together just shy of six months not including “break up” time
This is because tinder sucks. It's easy for a women to get a man. The majority of men either want sex or just attention from women. It doesn't work the other way around.
It's nude even for good looking men to get a girl on tinder.
Pre-cheating is not a thing and if it were every person on the planet would be guilty of it. Massive red flag. Wayyyyy too soon for you two to have the issues you do and already be requesting therapy. Get out.
The problem is that instead of being normal and either breaking up with her, or sticking to his word and stopping porn/rp-ing (a month into the relationship! Just break up ffs), he lied to her and told her he stopped.
And then he proceeded to do it in secret, she would find it, and he'd say he'll stop.. ad infinitum apparently.
I havent looked at her post yet, so this is what im getting from his post.
Like just break up with her. Why put the both of them through this
You don’t love her, yet you are sleeping with her.
You blame HER for your child making fun of his overweight mother, because it sets a “bad example.”
The only bad example I am seeing is the one is a permissive father who allows his child to berate and abuse his mother. What is wrong with you?
You all need therapy. Now. And I am sorry, OP, but you aren’t ready to date yet, as much as you may want to be. Figure out your shit before bringing someone else into the mix.
I'm sorry but you don't know what love is. Love is mutual respect, love is understanding, love is choosing your partner first. Your partner doesn't love you, and you love the idea of your partner, not the actual person. The actual person is just like your father. He didn't look past your baggage, he just confronted you with the biggest piece of baggage and cared nothing about your opinion.
You have to first learn what love is, and love is choosing your wife over traditions.
It’s weird to use time as an argument here. You may spend 20 years living with your parents, but possibly 60 years living with a spouse.
It’s not about who is together longest though. They are different things.