This relationship is NOT ready for marriage. Do not marry yet. You’re both very young and I do understand you’ve been together a long time but you are still very young. He’s cheated and now you find this secret file which shows he’s not honoring your wishes to delete private files… your foundation is just not solid and it seems like you are the only one with a desire to work on the relationship and that is the biggest concern.
I will can't get over this age gap. Are your ages correct because that makes him 13 years older than you. Considering he's your husband at 23, how old were you when he met you? Most older men go for younger women to groom them and take sexual advantage of them
Idk why you got downvoted. I wasn’t 100% sure about my sexuality until I kissed a girl. Having the experience isn’t necessary but sometimes it can help. Anyways, if you don’t feel comfortable with it then you should tell her as such.
Speaking as a guy…I don’t follow anyone like that, and if I did I wouldn’t publicly like any of their posts. But I’m a bit older (almost 40), so the whole OF/insta thing is a little after my time, as it is.
I do however watch porn from time to time. It doesn’t affect my relationship with my wife or our sex life. It doesn’t give me unrealistic ideas of how she should look or behave – with the exception that IRL, no one is DTF as often as they are in pornos – and it doesn’t mean that I love her any less. If you’re uncomfortable, tell your bf. But also ask yourself why you’re uncomfortable. He’s not really doing anything wrong, except that it makes you feel a way you don’t like.
Why can’t people just say what they mean?
You’re a walking red flag ? seem like you enjoy the drama as well to have those people as friends
This relationship is NOT ready for marriage. Do not marry yet. You’re both very young and I do understand you’ve been together a long time but you are still very young. He’s cheated and now you find this secret file which shows he’s not honoring your wishes to delete private files… your foundation is just not solid and it seems like you are the only one with a desire to work on the relationship and that is the biggest concern.
Check her phone. It's enough of a red flag with the situation and her response I would want to see the messages.
You sound naive AF. What will you do if you get pregnant?
I will can't get over this age gap. Are your ages correct because that makes him 13 years older than you. Considering he's your husband at 23, how old were you when he met you? Most older men go for younger women to groom them and take sexual advantage of them
Either she talks with you or you split. Make that clear.
Just glue a bunch of dick pics in your journal.
Idk why you got downvoted. I wasn’t 100% sure about my sexuality until I kissed a girl. Having the experience isn’t necessary but sometimes it can help. Anyways, if you don’t feel comfortable with it then you should tell her as such.
Speaking as a guy…I don’t follow anyone like that, and if I did I wouldn’t publicly like any of their posts. But I’m a bit older (almost 40), so the whole OF/insta thing is a little after my time, as it is.
I do however watch porn from time to time. It doesn’t affect my relationship with my wife or our sex life. It doesn’t give me unrealistic ideas of how she should look or behave – with the exception that IRL, no one is DTF as often as they are in pornos – and it doesn’t mean that I love her any less. If you’re uncomfortable, tell your bf. But also ask yourself why you’re uncomfortable. He’s not really doing anything wrong, except that it makes you feel a way you don’t like.
You already lost your mother.
You need to keep her out of your life and your families life.
She’s made her choice.