The input of the chemicals specific to the marijuana plant that result in an altered state of mind, primarily the ingestion or inhalation of THC.
If that’s your boundary, feel free to kick rocks. My boundary can be I don’t date people who use Reddit. You’re free to do whatever you want. I’m free to tell you to fuck off and not be around me. It goes both ways 🙂
You are right. She is trying to minimize because taking accountability and apologizing can be nude…but she better learn how to do that if she wants to be in a healthy relationship.
Opening a relationship only works with strong bonds and excellent communication. Ngl, it isn't something that you hear about in positive connotations otherwise. The fact that he only wants to open up HIS side is also sus.
If he's that lonely, he could suggest compromises that allow you both to see each other more or at least talk more to make up for that lost one-on-one time. Instead he wants to have sex with other people? Nah, sounds like you need to break up, then. His priority is his dick, not your relationship.
But if you really want to try, you need equality and rules.
“The only way we open this relationship is if it's open on both sides.
We both then have to set up ground rules:
No catching feelings and if we start to feel something we immediately cut that person off and go completely No Contact.
Never with someone we already know. No friends, no exes, no relatives of the other person, and no coworkers.
No unprotected sex EVER – condoms every time, without fail, or else.
We have to communicate about what's happening and when. If I have a date with my side guy, I have to tell you. If you have a date with a side chick, you have to tell me.
We also aren't allowed to stop the other person without reason. If I'm going out, you can't just tell me not to – you have to communicate why you don't want me to, and then we talk about. The same is true for me, I can't tell you not to go out with a girl unless I'm willing to give a reason and talk it out.
We have to tell each other who we're with. First and last names, no hiding our partners.
Our partners must be aware that we're in a long-term relationship, that they're just a side piece, and that our relationship is Open.
No sex with our side partners at our home (only really needed if you live together).
If either of us breaks a rule intentionally or lies about our partners or activities, our relationship is over.”
…
You should probably come up with your own rules if you stay with this guy (please don't) but there's some suggestions for you.
If he’s telling you it is, please reconsider this relationship. There’s already a huge power imbalance with the age difference. And his behaviour will not get better.
I think I will. We’re hanging out tomorrow evening, so I’ll try to muster up the courage to bring it up then. I’m just worried that she may be uncomfortable or it could somehow ruin our friendship
You should break up
The input of the chemicals specific to the marijuana plant that result in an altered state of mind, primarily the ingestion or inhalation of THC.
If that’s your boundary, feel free to kick rocks. My boundary can be I don’t date people who use Reddit. You’re free to do whatever you want. I’m free to tell you to fuck off and not be around me. It goes both ways 🙂
Money involvements can lead to deterioration of relationships, keep that in mind.
You are right. She is trying to minimize because taking accountability and apologizing can be nude…but she better learn how to do that if she wants to be in a healthy relationship.
I completely agree. Let her know you care for her but you dont see a future with her.
If you’re not gonna be honest with your wife, which is the absolute bare minimum, then there isn’t any other advice that can help you.
Good job going to jail for false reporting and maybe a sex crime.
You're the reason there is a do not eat warning for Tide Pods.
drop him. he’ll just hurt you more the longer you let him stay in your life
Opening a relationship only works with strong bonds and excellent communication. Ngl, it isn't something that you hear about in positive connotations otherwise. The fact that he only wants to open up HIS side is also sus.
If he's that lonely, he could suggest compromises that allow you both to see each other more or at least talk more to make up for that lost one-on-one time. Instead he wants to have sex with other people? Nah, sounds like you need to break up, then. His priority is his dick, not your relationship.
But if you really want to try, you need equality and rules.
“The only way we open this relationship is if it's open on both sides.
We both then have to set up ground rules:
No catching feelings and if we start to feel something we immediately cut that person off and go completely No Contact.
Never with someone we already know. No friends, no exes, no relatives of the other person, and no coworkers.
No unprotected sex EVER – condoms every time, without fail, or else.
We have to communicate about what's happening and when. If I have a date with my side guy, I have to tell you. If you have a date with a side chick, you have to tell me.
We also aren't allowed to stop the other person without reason. If I'm going out, you can't just tell me not to – you have to communicate why you don't want me to, and then we talk about. The same is true for me, I can't tell you not to go out with a girl unless I'm willing to give a reason and talk it out.
We have to tell each other who we're with. First and last names, no hiding our partners.
Our partners must be aware that we're in a long-term relationship, that they're just a side piece, and that our relationship is Open.
No sex with our side partners at our home (only really needed if you live together).
If either of us breaks a rule intentionally or lies about our partners or activities, our relationship is over.”
…
You should probably come up with your own rules if you stay with this guy (please don't) but there's some suggestions for you.
Not cheating. Full stop.
If he’s telling you it is, please reconsider this relationship. There’s already a huge power imbalance with the age difference. And his behaviour will not get better.
He's acting like that because he is heartbroken.
He needs to heal properly, not by just banging thru girls. At least not until he regulates his emotions first.
This is honestly so sad. You deserve so much more consideration, empathy and love. He should be taking care of you and your needs right now.
I think I will. We’re hanging out tomorrow evening, so I’ll try to muster up the courage to bring it up then. I’m just worried that she may be uncomfortable or it could somehow ruin our friendship
Hol’up, you went straight from only meeting on-line to living together? How TF does that happen?