Double-check all social media and account information you have with her and change the password.
Change the 'reset my password' emails to yours. Make a list right down to the smallest thing and keep the list.
Call and freeze any joint accounts you might have or get your name or hers removed from them.
Double-check anything and everything you might be associated liable for and remove yourself or her.
Block her on everything. If she ever comes crawling back and pounding on the door. Call the police and report her. Don't answer the door. Don't speak to her. Get a restraining order against her if you feel up to it.
Beyond the addiction issues, the cocaine supply is cut with Fentanyl. Every time he uses, he is playing Russian roulette. How do I know? Four years ago this June, my partner’s 19 year old son died in a bathroom at a club downtown when he did what he thought was cocaine. If he won’t take this seriously, you need to bail, honey, because he’s gambling with his life, and it won’t end well.
Since she found nothing then you have a perfect one sided argument. If she found something suspicious then that would have justified (in her mind) her decision to snoop, but she didnt.
And so you have the perfect case against her, you have the right to be angry and she has no excuse for what she did.
I would go with this:
– “your snooping shows that you dont trust me, what have I ever done before this that would lead you to snoop through my phone ? clearly you can trust me so what does that say about you ? what kind of relationship do we have if we dont have trust ? “
– “despite having foun nothing and then us talking about this, if you snoop on my phone in the future then that means you are a suspicious person who cant trust, I would not want to be in a relationship with someone incapable of trust.”
Put him on the couch, give him 3 months to get out, and start separating everything. Grey rock and avoid him and save your money!
Get a DNA test on the son….
OP have you talked to him about ending his friendship with that girl?
What if she is the manager?
Thats not love…. That’s manipulation.
But you are a girl. You have inherent power, own that. If you love him, give him ultimatums to prove he is invested in WE not just him.
He doesnt sound caring or him calling you clingy is just projection that he is putting crap effort in the partnership.
This is not on you. Egos are very hot overcome.
Double-check all social media and account information you have with her and change the password.
Change the 'reset my password' emails to yours. Make a list right down to the smallest thing and keep the list.
Call and freeze any joint accounts you might have or get your name or hers removed from them.
Double-check anything and everything you might be associated liable for and remove yourself or her.
Block her on everything. If she ever comes crawling back and pounding on the door. Call the police and report her. Don't answer the door. Don't speak to her. Get a restraining order against her if you feel up to it.
Beyond the addiction issues, the cocaine supply is cut with Fentanyl. Every time he uses, he is playing Russian roulette. How do I know? Four years ago this June, my partner’s 19 year old son died in a bathroom at a club downtown when he did what he thought was cocaine. If he won’t take this seriously, you need to bail, honey, because he’s gambling with his life, and it won’t end well.
Since she found nothing then you have a perfect one sided argument. If she found something suspicious then that would have justified (in her mind) her decision to snoop, but she didnt.
And so you have the perfect case against her, you have the right to be angry and she has no excuse for what she did.
I would go with this:
– “your snooping shows that you dont trust me, what have I ever done before this that would lead you to snoop through my phone ? clearly you can trust me so what does that say about you ? what kind of relationship do we have if we dont have trust ? “
– “despite having foun nothing and then us talking about this, if you snoop on my phone in the future then that means you are a suspicious person who cant trust, I would not want to be in a relationship with someone incapable of trust.”