Everyone commenting “this is why you shouldn’t save sex for after marriage” is forgetting that:
She realised she wasn’t sexually attracted to him BEFORE their wedding but didn’t say anything. Communication is key whether you’re boning each other or not.
Who even knows if it’s “because he’s inexperienced” that she isn’t feeling it – she seems to just not be into the idea, period. Nothing to do with his lack of experience.
He was essentially roped into marrying her. It’s baffling to me that no one’s pointed out that he’s wanted to save himself for marriage and now if she divorces him, whilst he has been able to save himself for marriage, he won’t be able to have that one life partner that he no doubt desired and EXPRESSED TO HER FROM THE START.
If she didn’t want to be with someone with those values, it was absolutely okay for her to walk out the door / not date him for the duration of their dating / engagement but she didn’t.
It just sounds like you need to make better friends. Why are you with friends with someone that drags you down?
And are you sure the 2nd friend saw your husband and ex-friend? Make sure you have some proof. She could be right, but she could've just mistaken it. Get evidence.
And it's not too weird for your husband to not see you the same even after proving the allegations to be false. Look into how many people's lives are still ruined after false allegations are proven false.
That hurts. It sounds like he’s trying a different path and wants to set aside the old path. Move on and forward. Find interesting people and activities to fill your life. Stay friends with the guy, and wish him happy birthday, but stay busy and do something fun with others on the day of the party. As we grow up, it’s normal and natural for friendships to change. Best wishes.
The mental gymnastics you have to do to excuse her behavior. If she won't take accountability then she's not changing. I hope you can choose a better life for yourself and your child.
Get a lawyer, get child support.
Everyone commenting “this is why you shouldn’t save sex for after marriage” is forgetting that:
She realised she wasn’t sexually attracted to him BEFORE their wedding but didn’t say anything. Communication is key whether you’re boning each other or not.
Who even knows if it’s “because he’s inexperienced” that she isn’t feeling it – she seems to just not be into the idea, period. Nothing to do with his lack of experience.
He was essentially roped into marrying her. It’s baffling to me that no one’s pointed out that he’s wanted to save himself for marriage and now if she divorces him, whilst he has been able to save himself for marriage, he won’t be able to have that one life partner that he no doubt desired and EXPRESSED TO HER FROM THE START.
If she didn’t want to be with someone with those values, it was absolutely okay for her to walk out the door / not date him for the duration of their dating / engagement but she didn’t.
It just sounds like you need to make better friends. Why are you with friends with someone that drags you down?
And are you sure the 2nd friend saw your husband and ex-friend? Make sure you have some proof. She could be right, but she could've just mistaken it. Get evidence.
And it's not too weird for your husband to not see you the same even after proving the allegations to be false. Look into how many people's lives are still ruined after false allegations are proven false.
That hurts. It sounds like he’s trying a different path and wants to set aside the old path. Move on and forward. Find interesting people and activities to fill your life. Stay friends with the guy, and wish him happy birthday, but stay busy and do something fun with others on the day of the party. As we grow up, it’s normal and natural for friendships to change. Best wishes.
Be honest
The mental gymnastics you have to do to excuse her behavior. If she won't take accountability then she's not changing. I hope you can choose a better life for yourself and your child.
3-6 months got me chlamydia twice so I’d rather be on the safer side