Ok well it is good that he is being emotionally mature, empathetic, and communicating respectfully.
Weight loss and getting fit is a long process. My follow up question to him would be logistical. He has to understand that even if you are willing to put a concerted effort into diet and exercise, these things don’t happen overnight, and often come with challenges and emotional difficulties. What’s he gonna do if you slip up? Is he gonna be the food/gym police? How are you gonna feel emotionally, knowing you’re doing it because he isn’t attracted to you? Some people might become resentful about that.
On the other hand, maybe this could be the push you need to change your lifestyle in a war that will make you happier with or without him in your life.
Sex therapists are there for this kind of reason. A bit awkward maybe, but they can help you talk through the processes in each of your heads. Could help!
I thought it was tradition that the brides family pay for and plan the wedding. Just like the groom buys an engagement ring and wedding ring.
Ok well it is good that he is being emotionally mature, empathetic, and communicating respectfully.
Weight loss and getting fit is a long process. My follow up question to him would be logistical. He has to understand that even if you are willing to put a concerted effort into diet and exercise, these things don’t happen overnight, and often come with challenges and emotional difficulties. What’s he gonna do if you slip up? Is he gonna be the food/gym police? How are you gonna feel emotionally, knowing you’re doing it because he isn’t attracted to you? Some people might become resentful about that.
On the other hand, maybe this could be the push you need to change your lifestyle in a war that will make you happier with or without him in your life.
Sex therapists are there for this kind of reason. A bit awkward maybe, but they can help you talk through the processes in each of your heads. Could help!