I would say that if you would like the possibility of getting back together to still exist, try reaching out. Pretty much the same if you just want to stay friends but you could probably push that a little longer. Clearly he still has strong feelings for you and I’m sure if you said to him you want to work it out and fix the issues he feels you two have, he’d likely agree unless he’s already told you and feels they can’t be fixed.
How is the topic of you being a paedophile not important? Morally, ethically, legally, and just in this scenario regarding talking to her parents who introduced you?
Bro. What you don’t see, is that you’re doing this to yourself.
You’ve expressed where you stand, but she just brushes it off. Why? Because you’ll do nothing about it. You know it, she knows it. So why should she stop?
You’ve shown that you’ll let this slide, regardless of how it makes you feel. That amount of disrespect, both from her and you to yourself, shows that you’re kind of a pushover (no offense, we all have to work on ourselves).
Bottom line is; if you don’t enforce your boundaries, don’t be surprised when you get walked all over. You deserve better my friend, have enough respect for yourself to know when to walk away.
You did nothing wrong. This situation is not healthy, he can’t control you. Having friends is not cheating lol I suggest you suggest him therapy, but a 34 year old might be hot to convince. So, good luck.
No. Kids is one of those things you absolutely have to be on the same page for. He may say he doesn’t care. And maybe he doesn’t. But if someone I was with kept bringing it up and said “yeah, but I don’t care if you don’t” I would let them go. Because it’s going to be a lot harder in 10 years if they leave you because it turns out they do, in fact, care.
Just be honest. She’s welcome but he is not. Sounds more like she wants you to play the role of hotel for her and boyfriend to go on vacay. I don’t think she’s coming to see you and spend time with you.
Frankly, the way you describe things, I’m not sure why you’re even friends with her?
Okay. But since it’s a pattern that’s still incredibly frustrating for your partner.
I would say that if you would like the possibility of getting back together to still exist, try reaching out. Pretty much the same if you just want to stay friends but you could probably push that a little longer. Clearly he still has strong feelings for you and I’m sure if you said to him you want to work it out and fix the issues he feels you two have, he’d likely agree unless he’s already told you and feels they can’t be fixed.
This is a dysfunctional relationship. See a therapist.
How is the topic of you being a paedophile not important? Morally, ethically, legally, and just in this scenario regarding talking to her parents who introduced you?
Why tf is the meaning of this watch purchase to him simply disposable in light of how much she wanted to to mean to her in the form of his gratitude?
No. Girlfriend is being selfish. Being a couple doesn’t mean free reign to step on each other’s moments. And someone that’s not selfish wouldn’t try.
Sounds like she moved on and you should too.
Bro. What you don’t see, is that you’re doing this to yourself.
You’ve expressed where you stand, but she just brushes it off. Why? Because you’ll do nothing about it. You know it, she knows it. So why should she stop?
You’ve shown that you’ll let this slide, regardless of how it makes you feel. That amount of disrespect, both from her and you to yourself, shows that you’re kind of a pushover (no offense, we all have to work on ourselves).
Bottom line is; if you don’t enforce your boundaries, don’t be surprised when you get walked all over. You deserve better my friend, have enough respect for yourself to know when to walk away.
You did nothing wrong. This situation is not healthy, he can’t control you. Having friends is not cheating lol I suggest you suggest him therapy, but a 34 year old might be hot to convince. So, good luck.
No. Kids is one of those things you absolutely have to be on the same page for. He may say he doesn’t care. And maybe he doesn’t. But if someone I was with kept bringing it up and said “yeah, but I don’t care if you don’t” I would let them go. Because it’s going to be a lot harder in 10 years if they leave you because it turns out they do, in fact, care.
This isn't something that can be a compromise. Its either you both want kids or neither of you want kids.
This isn't gonna work
Yeah, I’m good for it. Promise ??
“Just date your stalker so he doesn't hurt you.”
What the fuck? ?
Just be honest. She’s welcome but he is not. Sounds more like she wants you to play the role of hotel for her and boyfriend to go on vacay. I don’t think she’s coming to see you and spend time with you.
Frankly, the way you describe things, I’m not sure why you’re even friends with her?