I'm very sorry, I've been through this and I've felt that sense of betrayal by my best friend and nausea from seeing what she said to other men.
It's important for you to understand that your wife cheating is not your fault. She may be dissatisfied in some way, but relationships need communication in order to be healthy. Being “unhappy” is not a valid excuse to betray your committed partner.
You can try to discuss this with her and maybe reconcile, do couples counseling, etc., but we did all that after my ex cheated the first time. It only delayed the inevitable for a few more years when she ended up cheating again.
Your wife is not who you thought she was. That was an extremely difficult lesson for me to learn. We want to believe that our partners (and best friends) are loyal and loving and ethical, and that's not always the case.
This is an incredibly painful and destructive thing to go through. It destroyed my self-esteem and made me feel unwanted and unlovable. But, with time, I now know that it's just the flaws of my wife's character that I either wasn't aware of or was ready to excuse.
Be strong. This isn't about you, it's about your wife being a liar and a cheater.
He’s never had to get to that point because I responded to the initial comment which was done in a much more respectful manner. I afforded him the same opportunity however he did not take the hint this time and decided to double down.
Yes. A lot of women wouldn't want to date men who paid for prostitutes. It goes both ways. Not telling someone most people might consider a dealbreaker is the same as lying. OP knows a guy would want to know this information to take it into the next level, not telling him is a pretty shitty move.
If she refuses to listen to reason and the truth, then there's really nothing you can do (unless you want to step into her with harassment charges or the like). My advice is to block the lot of them. No more time and energy wasted on him or his little friends. Up and on to bigger and better things.
I'm very sorry, I've been through this and I've felt that sense of betrayal by my best friend and nausea from seeing what she said to other men.
It's important for you to understand that your wife cheating is not your fault. She may be dissatisfied in some way, but relationships need communication in order to be healthy. Being “unhappy” is not a valid excuse to betray your committed partner.
You can try to discuss this with her and maybe reconcile, do couples counseling, etc., but we did all that after my ex cheated the first time. It only delayed the inevitable for a few more years when she ended up cheating again.
Your wife is not who you thought she was. That was an extremely difficult lesson for me to learn. We want to believe that our partners (and best friends) are loyal and loving and ethical, and that's not always the case.
This is an incredibly painful and destructive thing to go through. It destroyed my self-esteem and made me feel unwanted and unlovable. But, with time, I now know that it's just the flaws of my wife's character that I either wasn't aware of or was ready to excuse.
Be strong. This isn't about you, it's about your wife being a liar and a cheater.
We're long distance. Sorry for not specifying that detail. If she were here irl I would've invited her for sure!
He’s never had to get to that point because I responded to the initial comment which was done in a much more respectful manner. I afforded him the same opportunity however he did not take the hint this time and decided to double down.
Yes. A lot of women wouldn't want to date men who paid for prostitutes. It goes both ways. Not telling someone most people might consider a dealbreaker is the same as lying. OP knows a guy would want to know this information to take it into the next level, not telling him is a pretty shitty move.
How about you just ask her? Trying to manipythe conversation or “trick” her into mentioning a boyfriend is really dodgy.
Sounds like you’ve got an ex girlfriend and kept $1000.
She blocked him!
If she refuses to listen to reason and the truth, then there's really nothing you can do (unless you want to step into her with harassment charges or the like). My advice is to block the lot of them. No more time and energy wasted on him or his little friends. Up and on to bigger and better things.
We do go to the gym and hiking together and other couple stuff too