If you’re all at the pool, when you need a break, go to the bathroom but take the long way and stop at a bar for a drink. Even if you don’t ‘drink,’ have them make you a virgin something. It’ll kill some time and you can have your me-time, even if it’s in small doses.
If you’re having dinner or a meal, you can always excuse yourself a bit early to say you wanted to check out a shop or talk to the activities director about something. You can wander around ‘trying’ to find them.
In the morning if you want to ‘skip’ breakfast with your fam, get up just a bit early and go for a walk on the resort. Perhaps ‘get lost’ and so you miss the meal.
And after typing this my brain just assumes tropical resorts because that’s my favorite type of vacation. Lol but wherever you’re going, you can likely get creative to ensure you get your me-time as well as hopefully smaller doses of your sister.
From everything you've written it sounds like she's grieving the imaginary loss of more children which while understandable doesn't have the grounding of reality that you've both discussed and talked about. Emotions don't make sense until you've had the appropriate time to process them and with 6 kids already when do either of ye really get the time for that.
Maybe spend time together and reflect bother her and you everything you've been through in your lives together and explain you side and make it clear you don't expect her to feel the same way. You could tell her you and the kids are everything to you and you love the life you've built together but that the emotional, physical and psychological that another child would place on your relationship would push things past a breaking point you'd find difficult to recover from. Maybe explain how much you love her as a person, a wife, a mother and a partner she is to you while also conveying that you did this in the hope that you could both enjoy later life together with grandchildren and that this isn't the death of new family but the birth of a new chapter for both of you and your children where you can focus on them.ajd yourselves. Emotions don't make sense slot of the time but it sounds like both of you have really good communication and spend time together. Give her time to grieve the loss of what could have and tell her you need some support for the decision you made too. I think you guys will work this out because from what you've written you communicate really well and often despite the overwhelming demands of a very busy household
He is trying to control you with fear. Domestic violence hotlines are well versed in helping women deal with this exact situation. He wants you to think he has all the power, but he doesn’t. There are people that can help.
Kinda makes me think of how when dudes do things like slap a waitresses ass plenty of people jump to their defence and say “boys will be boys”… but when dudes do stuff to another dude it's considered gross.
Look,all physical content against our wishes is gross. However in the whole scheme of the world I don't think what your dad did was any worse than other things like wedgies and red legs… none of which I approve of… but my point is I don't think it's predatory
Tell your dad to cut that stuff out in future. Tell your gf you've told your dad to cut it out. Then hopefully never speak of it again.
That is definitely part of the overall issue, however, I'm not interested in kids in at least the next 5 years.
Try to be strategic…
If you’re all at the pool, when you need a break, go to the bathroom but take the long way and stop at a bar for a drink. Even if you don’t ‘drink,’ have them make you a virgin something. It’ll kill some time and you can have your me-time, even if it’s in small doses.
If you’re having dinner or a meal, you can always excuse yourself a bit early to say you wanted to check out a shop or talk to the activities director about something. You can wander around ‘trying’ to find them.
In the morning if you want to ‘skip’ breakfast with your fam, get up just a bit early and go for a walk on the resort. Perhaps ‘get lost’ and so you miss the meal.
And after typing this my brain just assumes tropical resorts because that’s my favorite type of vacation. Lol but wherever you’re going, you can likely get creative to ensure you get your me-time as well as hopefully smaller doses of your sister.
From everything you've written it sounds like she's grieving the imaginary loss of more children which while understandable doesn't have the grounding of reality that you've both discussed and talked about. Emotions don't make sense until you've had the appropriate time to process them and with 6 kids already when do either of ye really get the time for that.
Maybe spend time together and reflect bother her and you everything you've been through in your lives together and explain you side and make it clear you don't expect her to feel the same way. You could tell her you and the kids are everything to you and you love the life you've built together but that the emotional, physical and psychological that another child would place on your relationship would push things past a breaking point you'd find difficult to recover from. Maybe explain how much you love her as a person, a wife, a mother and a partner she is to you while also conveying that you did this in the hope that you could both enjoy later life together with grandchildren and that this isn't the death of new family but the birth of a new chapter for both of you and your children where you can focus on them.ajd yourselves. Emotions don't make sense slot of the time but it sounds like both of you have really good communication and spend time together. Give her time to grieve the loss of what could have and tell her you need some support for the decision you made too. I think you guys will work this out because from what you've written you communicate really well and often despite the overwhelming demands of a very busy household
I’m probably about to get my heart broken so they can all go fuck themselves. I’m fucking done putting myself out there.
He is trying to control you with fear. Domestic violence hotlines are well versed in helping women deal with this exact situation. He wants you to think he has all the power, but he doesn’t. There are people that can help.
Kinda makes me think of how when dudes do things like slap a waitresses ass plenty of people jump to their defence and say “boys will be boys”… but when dudes do stuff to another dude it's considered gross.
Look,all physical content against our wishes is gross. However in the whole scheme of the world I don't think what your dad did was any worse than other things like wedgies and red legs… none of which I approve of… but my point is I don't think it's predatory
Tell your dad to cut that stuff out in future. Tell your gf you've told your dad to cut it out. Then hopefully never speak of it again.
Y’all need to learn to leave these trash men, Jesus Christ. A husband is a partner, not an albatross to bear for life wtf is that mindset
I am literally reading them. And i don’t get anything from my parents lmao
She can want to be your wife and a bride. It’s a pretty conventional thing to want as well, so why would you be so surprised and defensive…?