met my boyfriend about 7-8 months ago and we made things “exclusive” about 2 months in. I noticed he was acting strange about two months ago but he works in law enforcement (in my town) so I thought maybe something happened that was bothering him.. turns out, that was when his wife delivered their first baby.. I found out due to an innocent that happened with another officer and because he was acting strange, googled his name and found an obituary with his name and his wife's name on it, found her Facebook and saw their newborn baby. I didn't tell him that I knew he was married and just ended the relationship saying I was unhappy. My question is, should I tell her and destroy the family she just started or keep this to myself and just let him go (I do not want him at all after finding out this information). What would you do in my shoes?
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Date: March 9, 2023
Actors: SabiSin
I feel like many young woman (and some older women, lol) assume that guys only want sex, or that sex is how you gain the interest of men. It’s not a conscious decision; both women and men are socialized from a very young age to consider women as ornaments, objects of sexual desire, and women are regularly reduced to their sexuality in everything from advertising to film and television roles.
I wonder if she’s approaching the relationship that way, and isn’t getting any pushback for feedback from you that you’d want more?
make sure your cat is chipped and the info is in your name. it will be easier to finder the cat when he inevitably throws it out/rehomes it/drops it at a shelter while you are out one day.
If he didn't respect and understand you after the first time. He is just going to try and hide it better, not stop.
There are therapists who specialize in executive function and might be able to help him figure out his procrastination, or perfectionism, or whatever else turns a 4-hour assignment into a 12-hour someone-misunderstood-the-assignment.
It's simple really
You tell everybody that Roger isn't your father, your dad is.
And as such your dad will be walking you down the isle
If people have an issue with that they simply don't come to the wedding
I agree that it sounds like your boyfriend does not want to marry you. I feel like even if you give him an ultimatum and he proposed, being proposed to doesn't make you married.
Are you going to wait another 10 years for a wedding? If he's using money as an excuse not to propose, why do you think he's going to plan a wedding when it's a much larger cost?
It could be due to his diet.
If he eats a lot of food that are high in any of the following that could be a possible cause of the increased perspiration or bad BO.
Food high in sulphur such as garlic or onion, spices or strongly favoured food, certain vegetables such as broccoli or cauliflower, eating too much junk food, consuming too much sugar or refined carbohydrates can all Same goes for much alcohol or caffeine or not drinking enough water which can help dilute body odour and help flush the system of toxins.
Try getting him to increase his water intake and eat foods that are high in chlorophyll, such as leafy greens, parsley, and wheatgrass, they have been known to help neutralise body odour.
If his diet isn’t the problem I’d suggest going to the doctors to get a medical opinion. Something more sinister could be the cause.
I'm 20m and I have a slightly different take on this one, I'll probably get downvoted.
Perceived spaced does not put you under any obligation to interact with anyone.
So if something is up and you want your space, you can get up and leave but its not possible 100% of the time.
I zone out a lot, I lost my mom, I was raped, have a messed up relationship with my.dad's side of the fam , I'm 100 percent no contact and I have depression. My whole being is dedicated to protecting my space, whether I'm in public or private. Slightest thing can trigger me.
There's therapy and meds but sometimes that void is accelerated and you have no option but to tune out from everyone.
I'd say give her time and then ask what's up, or wait till she opens up to you
I have discontinued my birth control because we are planned to start a family soon
he said I didn’t have a right to give him a time limit to propose
I would run – not walk – back to your ob/gyn and immediately start bc again. You are fine starting a family with someone who likely has no intention of marrying you? Or having a baby with someone who is probably thinking he can string you along, not marry you and not have to go through the divorce and 'give you half of his earnings' (which I'm willing to bet is exactly what his mindset is?
Nope. If you want to get married, you need to find someone else.