I'm so sorry, OP. In case no one has ever said this to you before–if you are having sex with anyone and tell them to wait, stop, or to put a condom on and they do not listen, you can and should use as much force as you can/as needed to get them to stop.
Him trying to reframe as “why didn't you make me stop” when you claim you were held in place and verbally said to get a condom multiple times only shows that he knows what he did was wrong. “Make him” because asking him and attempting to do it yourself and being prevented wasn't enough?
What type of advice do you need OP and how can we help you the best?
Exactly! “Trespassing” if anything cops would say it’s a civil matter and not give a shit. The whole post sounds like complete utter bull shit. And if he really can’t be more than 2 minutes without his wife that sounds like a problem. I get enjoying time with your spouse but if you can’t even have a guys night or ladies night every now and then yikes.
That’s nicer than what I did. I just would kick my husband and slowly push him off the bed until he learned to wake up from the first alarm. He was like OPs husband. I had a newborn that didn’t sleep well at night. After a few nights of me wanting to murder him for hitting the alarm so many times and me pushing him out of bed, it was never a problem again
Obvious issue is she kerps lying and hiding things from you. I will state the obvious: if she fine lying straight to your face about this, she will be fine doing it in the future and she might still be lying about things right now. This is not a past issue, but a present one and you need fix this behaviour of hers or leave her if you can't. Maybe try couples counselling?
Did you have in depth conversation about the past. How you made mistake of trying to change to please her and her tresting you like garbage despite it? About what has mafe her change her mind and how she feels about her past actions. You will not get over the past, unless you address it properly with her. Here to counselling may help, but be aware not every counsellor knows what they are doing.
I mean it happened to my brother and sister in law when they were about this age too. She is older than him but looked maybe 16-17 into her late twenties early thirties. People gave them dirty looks and called my brother a creep all the time.
Trust your intuition.
Nothing wrong with each having responsibilities and reasonable expectations. Dry clothes seem very reasonable.
The question is why she won't. What's holding her back?
Mr assumption would be $.
She needs to know that there is a budget for it and it's important to have the results or the work wasn't worth it.
I'm so sorry, OP. In case no one has ever said this to you before–if you are having sex with anyone and tell them to wait, stop, or to put a condom on and they do not listen, you can and should use as much force as you can/as needed to get them to stop.
Him trying to reframe as “why didn't you make me stop” when you claim you were held in place and verbally said to get a condom multiple times only shows that he knows what he did was wrong. “Make him” because asking him and attempting to do it yourself and being prevented wasn't enough?
What type of advice do you need OP and how can we help you the best?
Exactly! “Trespassing” if anything cops would say it’s a civil matter and not give a shit. The whole post sounds like complete utter bull shit. And if he really can’t be more than 2 minutes without his wife that sounds like a problem. I get enjoying time with your spouse but if you can’t even have a guys night or ladies night every now and then yikes.
It’s not even that big of an age gap.
That’s nicer than what I did. I just would kick my husband and slowly push him off the bed until he learned to wake up from the first alarm. He was like OPs husband. I had a newborn that didn’t sleep well at night. After a few nights of me wanting to murder him for hitting the alarm so many times and me pushing him out of bed, it was never a problem again
Unfortunately it is imposible to tell.
Obvious issue is she kerps lying and hiding things from you. I will state the obvious: if she fine lying straight to your face about this, she will be fine doing it in the future and she might still be lying about things right now. This is not a past issue, but a present one and you need fix this behaviour of hers or leave her if you can't. Maybe try couples counselling?
Did you have in depth conversation about the past. How you made mistake of trying to change to please her and her tresting you like garbage despite it? About what has mafe her change her mind and how she feels about her past actions. You will not get over the past, unless you address it properly with her. Here to counselling may help, but be aware not every counsellor knows what they are doing.
I mean it happened to my brother and sister in law when they were about this age too. She is older than him but looked maybe 16-17 into her late twenties early thirties. People gave them dirty looks and called my brother a creep all the time.
Thank you
You tell her you love her and you aren’t going anywhere
As a guy, the dirty/clean threshold is much lower.
Anyone who has lived with or been raised by men who keep a clean house with no help or chore charts by a woman needed can tell you this is bullshit.
This is some straight up “boys will be boys!” crap. This is not a guy thing at all.
Whatever you do, don’t get the dog.