Call 911 and show the cops the marks. If CPS finds out that you're allowing your wife to abuse you in front of the kids, you're going to lose the kids to CPS. Your kids are going to be mentally messed up from seeing DV too. And on top of it, at this rate, she's gonna kill you, and she will be in prison, and your kids will have ZERO parents. I was a DV victim. I know it's very hot to break the cycle, but it's your responsibility as a parent to do so.
As a devoted husband who has never said anything like this, and never would, plan your exit. This guy's ability to present a completely different face to your family after saying the toxic, damaging things he said to you, is alarming and unforgivable. If you stay with him, he is going to push the bar for acceptable behavior lower and lower.
You break up with your girlfriend ASAP. You don't establish a safety net first.
You're recognizing what your relationship is lacking, and you want what it lacks badly. Don't be that dick that makes sure you're going to have a nice parachute to rebound to.
Hell after the breakup, you shouldn't start something with this woman for a number of months/years. If you make a rebound out of her, you're likely sabotaging the relationship.
Your relationship isn't good enough, and you need to focus on that. Then you need to grieve the relationship like an adult because there will be plenty of that: you two have been staples in each other's life for half a decade and it takes time to adjust. Eventually, you'll be ready for another relationship, and if you're smart, that's when you wait to get into anything resembling a relationship.
Date whenever you feel ready, but avoid relationships like the plague while you're still coming to terms with the new reality; otherwise, you'll just be bringing someone else into your shit. You'll find yourself compounding drama, and it's the last thing you'll need.
Your mom isn’t trying to ruin a good time for you. She loves you deeply and wants to protect you. Please listen to her. Please trust in her. She wants what’s best for you. This guy wants what’s best for him.
It is who you are. It’s not like it happened decades ago. Maybe you’ve matured since then, but it’s unlikely. Unless you know specifically how you’d act differently now if in a similar situation, then you should take a beat and work on yourself instead of lurching from relationship to relationship.
I do not have a college degree. In fact, I'm a college dropout. Does that make me less deserving of my husband's love and affection?
Call 911 and show the cops the marks. If CPS finds out that you're allowing your wife to abuse you in front of the kids, you're going to lose the kids to CPS. Your kids are going to be mentally messed up from seeing DV too. And on top of it, at this rate, she's gonna kill you, and she will be in prison, and your kids will have ZERO parents. I was a DV victim. I know it's very hot to break the cycle, but it's your responsibility as a parent to do so.
As a devoted husband who has never said anything like this, and never would, plan your exit. This guy's ability to present a completely different face to your family after saying the toxic, damaging things he said to you, is alarming and unforgivable. If you stay with him, he is going to push the bar for acceptable behavior lower and lower.
You break up with your girlfriend ASAP. You don't establish a safety net first.
You're recognizing what your relationship is lacking, and you want what it lacks badly. Don't be that dick that makes sure you're going to have a nice parachute to rebound to.
Hell after the breakup, you shouldn't start something with this woman for a number of months/years. If you make a rebound out of her, you're likely sabotaging the relationship.
Your relationship isn't good enough, and you need to focus on that. Then you need to grieve the relationship like an adult because there will be plenty of that: you two have been staples in each other's life for half a decade and it takes time to adjust. Eventually, you'll be ready for another relationship, and if you're smart, that's when you wait to get into anything resembling a relationship.
Date whenever you feel ready, but avoid relationships like the plague while you're still coming to terms with the new reality; otherwise, you'll just be bringing someone else into your shit. You'll find yourself compounding drama, and it's the last thing you'll need.
Your mom isn’t trying to ruin a good time for you. She loves you deeply and wants to protect you. Please listen to her. Please trust in her. She wants what’s best for you. This guy wants what’s best for him.
Great idea! That way if she's cheating, she learns to hide it better!
Space is good, especially safe space.
It is who you are. It’s not like it happened decades ago. Maybe you’ve matured since then, but it’s unlikely. Unless you know specifically how you’d act differently now if in a similar situation, then you should take a beat and work on yourself instead of lurching from relationship to relationship.