She's like a person with a peanut allergy shrugging at the possibility of eating one in her food. Maybe there's one in there maybe there's not, who's to say.
Except this little oopsie wouldn't just affect her, it would affect OP and (potentially) an innocent child.
OP, glove the love or dip out, this situation is like the begining of a story that ends with “and that, kids, is how I became your father”.
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As someone who also recently said it first and hasn't heard it back, don't panic.
What I have found is that they have used the word love more, have communicated just as much as before, if not more, and have wanted to spend more time with me yet.
It was definitely a surprise for him, he didn't get the chance to say it back either. But I know I love quickly. But I also know I said it cos I wanted to, not cos I need validation of my feelings.
People don't fall in love on the same timescales. People don't feel okay saying it in the same timescales. If you still enjoy being with her, just let it be that for now x
You are valid in your request for privacy in the bathroom. If this is the only bathroom then she should only be coming in if she has an emergency. A knock before entering is common respect and courtesy.
I personally think she deserved the door to the face. That happened by her own fault.
Im mostly concerned by her general lack of respect for you and her emotional manipulation she pulls when things don’t go her way.
Your needs in regard to your mental health and the ability to care for your own family are no less important than your sister's need for free child care.
People tend to think that you can set aside your mental health issues for the amount of time needed to do what they want you to do. Then go back to your mental health issues when you are no longer of use. Mental health doesn't work that way. Sometimes it is all you can do to hold it together for your own family, and sometimes fall short of the mark, and feel guilty for not being capable of doing it all.
Do not let anyone tell you to buck up or suck it up for family. You know if you stretch yourself too thin that it will cost you in your own family life. Set boundaries, Explain, and keep explaining that you are not capable of taking any more on than you already do. You are not being selfish. If they think you are fine, that is their choice to believe that. Do not shortchange your own family to help hers. Stand your ground, you have a right to protect your mental health. Push back and don't allow yourself to be manipulated with guilt. Your children depend on you, and taking on more right now is not in their or your best interests.
She's like a person with a peanut allergy shrugging at the possibility of eating one in her food. Maybe there's one in there maybe there's not, who's to say.
Except this little oopsie wouldn't just affect her, it would affect OP and (potentially) an innocent child.
OP, glove the love or dip out, this situation is like the begining of a story that ends with “and that, kids, is how I became your father”.
Break up with him. He’s too old to be so simple!
Drunk words are sober thoughts. I imagine you may be able to work it out, but it's a crappy way for him to deal with anything.
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I mean… this one is fake, right? I mean it's just too easy
As someone who also recently said it first and hasn't heard it back, don't panic.
What I have found is that they have used the word love more, have communicated just as much as before, if not more, and have wanted to spend more time with me yet.
It was definitely a surprise for him, he didn't get the chance to say it back either. But I know I love quickly. But I also know I said it cos I wanted to, not cos I need validation of my feelings.
People don't fall in love on the same timescales. People don't feel okay saying it in the same timescales. If you still enjoy being with her, just let it be that for now x
updateme!
Why would someone, who professes to love their partner, continue to do something they have explicitly stated they do not like or enjoy?
If it was a white guy, calling a black girl racial slurs she didn't like and were derogatory during sex, what would you say?
You tried, she showed how little she truly cares, OR, how much her fantasies matter MORE than you.
This
She sounds like a cunt.
You are valid in your request for privacy in the bathroom. If this is the only bathroom then she should only be coming in if she has an emergency. A knock before entering is common respect and courtesy.
I personally think she deserved the door to the face. That happened by her own fault.
Im mostly concerned by her general lack of respect for you and her emotional manipulation she pulls when things don’t go her way.
Your needs in regard to your mental health and the ability to care for your own family are no less important than your sister's need for free child care.
People tend to think that you can set aside your mental health issues for the amount of time needed to do what they want you to do. Then go back to your mental health issues when you are no longer of use. Mental health doesn't work that way. Sometimes it is all you can do to hold it together for your own family, and sometimes fall short of the mark, and feel guilty for not being capable of doing it all.
Do not let anyone tell you to buck up or suck it up for family. You know if you stretch yourself too thin that it will cost you in your own family life. Set boundaries, Explain, and keep explaining that you are not capable of taking any more on than you already do. You are not being selfish. If they think you are fine, that is their choice to believe that. Do not shortchange your own family to help hers. Stand your ground, you have a right to protect your mental health. Push back and don't allow yourself to be manipulated with guilt. Your children depend on you, and taking on more right now is not in their or your best interests.
Start with a smaller, less significant one.
So he went on a date with his ex and her family?
U cud call your kid Prison Mike