If you both agreed to not sleep with anyone else during the separation, she screwed that up. She’s not devoting any time or energy into fixing your relationship if she’s in someone else’s bed.
Just because you invested in a significant amount of time with someone does not mean that they did the same. If he has feelings for someone else, that's not going away. He will just hide it from you while he sits on the noncommittal fence. He's not interested in going to therapy to work anything out. If he was, he would have done it already. He has shown you who he is. People change the most after they graduate from high school. The person you thought you knew is someone else now.
Yikes! That must have been really scary. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
The most likely explanation is that an angry ex or someone else he pissed off did all those things. It makes no sense that it was all random. So he likely is lying. Who knows how he pissed someone off. That's way too much scary drama. I think for your protection physically and emotionally you shouldn't see him anymore.
Yeah….you need to tell your fiance and you guys figure out – together – your next steps.
Keep in mind that none of this is your fault. Any fallout from this is squarely on the friend, not you.
And actually – this is going to be a defining moment for you. If your fiance doesn't believe you, or thinks this is your 'fault', or whatever other shitty take, you need to know that. Does he have your back when things go pear-shaped or not? Does he trust you or not?
Does he react with anger (towards you) or suspicion (towards you) or does he react with concern and compassion and disappointment about the whole mess?
You are about to learn something extremely important about your fiance's character. This whole fiasco could be a blessing in disguise.
Good luck OP. I hope your fiance rises to this challenge.
I loved the part you gave me a solution, excuse me.
You seem to misunderstand this. Except from him going bonkers once in a while, not being able sleep for a while from thinking, there is nothing going bad. I made sure that its a healthy relationship. Im not sure what he is relapsing into but I guess its about the girl before me that hurt him.
I am asking for an advice on how he can solve this, to suggest him to try. Maybe this will work out somehow, and I need not fret but I am not someone that would leave my loved ones alone at the first sign of distress. So we are both trying to do what we can before calling it quits.
If you both agreed to not sleep with anyone else during the separation, she screwed that up. She’s not devoting any time or energy into fixing your relationship if she’s in someone else’s bed.
Just because you invested in a significant amount of time with someone does not mean that they did the same. If he has feelings for someone else, that's not going away. He will just hide it from you while he sits on the noncommittal fence. He's not interested in going to therapy to work anything out. If he was, he would have done it already. He has shown you who he is. People change the most after they graduate from high school. The person you thought you knew is someone else now.
No she normally doesn’t do this — so it’s refreshing to see her making friends but also why I started asking myself questions lol
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Yikes! That must have been really scary. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
The most likely explanation is that an angry ex or someone else he pissed off did all those things. It makes no sense that it was all random. So he likely is lying. Who knows how he pissed someone off. That's way too much scary drama. I think for your protection physically and emotionally you shouldn't see him anymore.
Yeah….you need to tell your fiance and you guys figure out – together – your next steps.
Keep in mind that none of this is your fault. Any fallout from this is squarely on the friend, not you.
And actually – this is going to be a defining moment for you. If your fiance doesn't believe you, or thinks this is your 'fault', or whatever other shitty take, you need to know that. Does he have your back when things go pear-shaped or not? Does he trust you or not?
Does he react with anger (towards you) or suspicion (towards you) or does he react with concern and compassion and disappointment about the whole mess?
You are about to learn something extremely important about your fiance's character. This whole fiasco could be a blessing in disguise.
Good luck OP. I hope your fiance rises to this challenge.
From what I’m reading, your husband is willing to change how he acts, but can’t change who he is.
And you don’t really like who he is.
Ah, this is about the things you “need acknowledged and genuine apologies for.” Not so much about your daughter. This makes more sense.
I loved the part you gave me a solution, excuse me.
You seem to misunderstand this. Except from him going bonkers once in a while, not being able sleep for a while from thinking, there is nothing going bad. I made sure that its a healthy relationship. Im not sure what he is relapsing into but I guess its about the girl before me that hurt him.
I am asking for an advice on how he can solve this, to suggest him to try. Maybe this will work out somehow, and I need not fret but I am not someone that would leave my loved ones alone at the first sign of distress. So we are both trying to do what we can before calling it quits.
She clearly doesn't want to feel better, don't move in with her, it's a waste of energy and time.