Based on your comment, sounds like you have more to learn about the neuroscience of sexuality and the sociology that influences it. It sounds like you know how you’d respond to this situation as a man, but that’s not how a woman would most likely respond based on how women are socialized. You should read my comment about this, sexuality is super interesting. 🙂 I really believe the girlfriend didn’t have any bad intentions, although she failed to understand how it would make her partner feel, just like he seems not to understand how she most likely felt about the situation.
You should try reach out one more time and ask for answers as you deserve to know why he’s behaving this way. If he doesn’t respond then you must try and move along and not look back. Life is too short for having this type of behaviour thrust on you. If he does respond then it’s up to you how to proceed afterwards. I wish you well, be strong and let us know how you get along. Try have a great festive period buddy.
It’s not really about forgiving me it’s about helping both of us. I’m not just going to be doing couples counseling with him I want him to go to Therepy himself without me because it’s something he needs and I want to support. We’ve been dating a year now and I’ll be 18 in not even a month, I’m also in Therepy as I stated. I’m not going to just give up on him because I love him and I see us having a future together and so has he
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Your entire post history – dozens upon dozens of posts- is filled with you chatting up women on reddit, flirting with them, speaking sexually to them, posting in r/Cuckold and r/SluttyConfessions about your wife supposedly being with other men, and talking about how you encourage your wife to flirt. You say she “openly flirts with guys” and “you personally love it.”
Therefore, I don't understand this post. You love when your wife flirts, you encourage her to do so, you love flirting with other women, so why does her simply giving her number to a neighbor for a totally innocent reason bother you this much? Or is this a fetish post? Genuine question.
By dump her, do you mean file for divorce? It’s terribly sad that she’s going through such a difficult time with the impending death of a family member, alcoholism, depression & more. She hasn’t cheated on OP yet, let alone even communicated with the other guy. I think this is one of those “for better or for worse” stretches. If their relationship really is wonderful & they got married for the right reasons, then this will be just a blip in the road.
Right? I get the mom SHOULD be proud the daughter did the right thing as someone else mentioned. But frankly? Despite its outdated stereotypes, there are plenty of moms who’d still rather pass on thinking that everything is peachy
Based on your comment, sounds like you have more to learn about the neuroscience of sexuality and the sociology that influences it. It sounds like you know how you’d respond to this situation as a man, but that’s not how a woman would most likely respond based on how women are socialized. You should read my comment about this, sexuality is super interesting. 🙂 I really believe the girlfriend didn’t have any bad intentions, although she failed to understand how it would make her partner feel, just like he seems not to understand how she most likely felt about the situation.
The only clarity you are going to get is a paternity test
You should try reach out one more time and ask for answers as you deserve to know why he’s behaving this way. If he doesn’t respond then you must try and move along and not look back. Life is too short for having this type of behaviour thrust on you. If he does respond then it’s up to you how to proceed afterwards. I wish you well, be strong and let us know how you get along. Try have a great festive period buddy.
It’s not really about forgiving me it’s about helping both of us. I’m not just going to be doing couples counseling with him I want him to go to Therepy himself without me because it’s something he needs and I want to support. We’ve been dating a year now and I’ll be 18 in not even a month, I’m also in Therepy as I stated. I’m not going to just give up on him because I love him and I see us having a future together and so has he
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Your entire post history – dozens upon dozens of posts- is filled with you chatting up women on reddit, flirting with them, speaking sexually to them, posting in r/Cuckold and r/SluttyConfessions about your wife supposedly being with other men, and talking about how you encourage your wife to flirt. You say she “openly flirts with guys” and “you personally love it.”
Therefore, I don't understand this post. You love when your wife flirts, you encourage her to do so, you love flirting with other women, so why does her simply giving her number to a neighbor for a totally innocent reason bother you this much? Or is this a fetish post? Genuine question.
He claims it was no big deal and that he hasn’t spoken to her in years until we broke up…
Need more context please…he doesn't want to do what?
By dump her, do you mean file for divorce? It’s terribly sad that she’s going through such a difficult time with the impending death of a family member, alcoholism, depression & more. She hasn’t cheated on OP yet, let alone even communicated with the other guy. I think this is one of those “for better or for worse” stretches. If their relationship really is wonderful & they got married for the right reasons, then this will be just a blip in the road.
Right? I get the mom SHOULD be proud the daughter did the right thing as someone else mentioned. But frankly? Despite its outdated stereotypes, there are plenty of moms who’d still rather pass on thinking that everything is peachy