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She was being childish and looking for a reason to be offended, and then tried to talk down to you as well. I would recommend you set your boundaries and tell her that what she said was not particularly kind or appropriate. Also tell her that if she is just going to look for reasons to criticize the gift ideas you offer her, then you need to know if she would prefer a gift card or something.
There’s nothing wrong with telling someone you’re with that they took it too far and that they owe you an apology. If she is mature she will understand that she was being childish and should be woman enough to apologize like an adult.
Just because it’s not something that works for you personally, doesn’t mean you need to villainize it in her. At the end of the day, no two human beings are the exact same because that’s just not how we work. We’re going to have differences, and this is just a difference between you two. She clearly needs it to cool down after an argument – and it’s not actually physically harming you, so I think it’s just something you need to accept honestly.
Not exactly the most normal of beginning of friendships. Hopefully you can see its not something that you usually boast about.
I get you are unhappy about the lie, and I think a heart to heart talk about it expressing your disappointment, and wanting an apology is reasonable. Due to the circumstances I wouldn't leave over it, and if the “you have to tell me warts and all” conversation goes reasonably well, I think you should completely drop it.
The general rule is that it's his body and he can do as he wishes. But if he agrees with you to set a boundary, then he should uphold it. Nonetheless, that being said, it's a little strange to have a boundary on your own body implemented by your girlfriend.
Stud muffin… would kinda work, i guess?
Retroactive abuse is what it’s called. It’s when a victim mimics the abusers behavior as a survival tactic.
The sign this wasn’t going to work was you driving over three hours to see him. You never mentioned him doing the same.
Choose to love yourself. Have some proof. Pack jerks to the curb.
That’s why I said generally, not always.
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Their was two post of ops finding condoms & the excuses they used LMAO
First one…he bought them for their anniversary. As long as they’ve been married they’ve never used em.
The second one his friend gave him a box & he didn’t want to be mean & say no to him. So they took them.
Do you think people can find love on every corner or something?
Finally, a realistic response!
we got together when we were 14 🙂 our birthdays are on january which is why i said 3 years into the relationship
She was being childish and looking for a reason to be offended, and then tried to talk down to you as well. I would recommend you set your boundaries and tell her that what she said was not particularly kind or appropriate. Also tell her that if she is just going to look for reasons to criticize the gift ideas you offer her, then you need to know if she would prefer a gift card or something.
There’s nothing wrong with telling someone you’re with that they took it too far and that they owe you an apology. If she is mature she will understand that she was being childish and should be woman enough to apologize like an adult.
Just because it’s not something that works for you personally, doesn’t mean you need to villainize it in her. At the end of the day, no two human beings are the exact same because that’s just not how we work. We’re going to have differences, and this is just a difference between you two. She clearly needs it to cool down after an argument – and it’s not actually physically harming you, so I think it’s just something you need to accept honestly.
Not exactly the most normal of beginning of friendships. Hopefully you can see its not something that you usually boast about.
I get you are unhappy about the lie, and I think a heart to heart talk about it expressing your disappointment, and wanting an apology is reasonable. Due to the circumstances I wouldn't leave over it, and if the “you have to tell me warts and all” conversation goes reasonably well, I think you should completely drop it.
The general rule is that it's his body and he can do as he wishes. But if he agrees with you to set a boundary, then he should uphold it. Nonetheless, that being said, it's a little strange to have a boundary on your own body implemented by your girlfriend.
Great response