i think you’re asking here because you know it’s a bad idea. don’t get married/engaged so quickly, and be wary of men in the US military of any branch. many are great, many are horrible and abusive and immature. be careful.
That's the main thing. Be aware there are quite a few, and keep a look out for it. Your mind might lie to you and say things like “There is no way that guy is interested in me” or “He's just being nice, it's not really a compliment.” That's just your mind lying and it will do that a lot when you get your ego shredded the way your ex did yours.
As a Southie married to someone from Gujarat, my only advice is- is she marrying you or her parents? You need to take a good look at how sustainable it is to continue dating and take a decision. If you feel your relationship has some merit the only way is to hang on tight and weather the Indian uncle aunty storm that will come your way. Another solution I can think of is to move to a a 3rd location where they dont have a control over A's life and get married there.
Annnnndddddd there it is!!! It's not love lady. It's already a relationship of convenience. You're just to love struck to see it right now..
Yeah he treats you so good.. because he wants something from you… Not saying he's going to turn into some kind of bastard after you get married, but it's been known to happen all to often. NEVER get married for convenience.
I think I would be if it was a spouse or something, but when you're dating you're in search of a relationship that makes you happy and where you connect on all the levels necessary for romance. And the point of dating rather than jumping into marriage is that you can back out if you want to for any reason! (Obviously you technically can for marriage as well but I think there's more of an obligation to actually try to work things out and especially to take care of your partner in the face of challenges.)
I've been the person who had a sudden health crisis while dating and needed extra support from my partner. The fact that he stayed and gave that support I took as a sign of his selflessness, but also as a sign that even when I was going through a rough patch I still made him happy enough of the time that it was worthwhile. If at any point I thought he was just staying out of guilt or obligation I would have been devastated and would have *wanted* him to break up with me.
If you find the person you love enough you may want to do those things for them, and if you find you don't love them enough then you're within your rights to leave.
You’re not really saying what conversations took place between you and your ex. Based on the little info you provided it is strange how much went down for this “friend” whose birthday you don’t know but decided to buy a present for anyway and then had to meet up with immediately after being out of town. Again there’s only so much that can be assumed by what you posted.
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Bro, how many red flags do you need KEKW. You should have broken up in the moment they text way to much outside of work lol.
i think you’re asking here because you know it’s a bad idea. don’t get married/engaged so quickly, and be wary of men in the US military of any branch. many are great, many are horrible and abusive and immature. be careful.
That's the main thing. Be aware there are quite a few, and keep a look out for it. Your mind might lie to you and say things like “There is no way that guy is interested in me” or “He's just being nice, it's not really a compliment.” That's just your mind lying and it will do that a lot when you get your ego shredded the way your ex did yours.
As a Southie married to someone from Gujarat, my only advice is- is she marrying you or her parents? You need to take a good look at how sustainable it is to continue dating and take a decision. If you feel your relationship has some merit the only way is to hang on tight and weather the Indian uncle aunty storm that will come your way. Another solution I can think of is to move to a a 3rd location where they dont have a control over A's life and get married there.
Annnnndddddd there it is!!! It's not love lady. It's already a relationship of convenience. You're just to love struck to see it right now..
Yeah he treats you so good.. because he wants something from you… Not saying he's going to turn into some kind of bastard after you get married, but it's been known to happen all to often. NEVER get married for convenience.
I think I would be if it was a spouse or something, but when you're dating you're in search of a relationship that makes you happy and where you connect on all the levels necessary for romance. And the point of dating rather than jumping into marriage is that you can back out if you want to for any reason! (Obviously you technically can for marriage as well but I think there's more of an obligation to actually try to work things out and especially to take care of your partner in the face of challenges.)
I've been the person who had a sudden health crisis while dating and needed extra support from my partner. The fact that he stayed and gave that support I took as a sign of his selflessness, but also as a sign that even when I was going through a rough patch I still made him happy enough of the time that it was worthwhile. If at any point I thought he was just staying out of guilt or obligation I would have been devastated and would have *wanted* him to break up with me.
If you find the person you love enough you may want to do those things for them, and if you find you don't love them enough then you're within your rights to leave.
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You’re not really saying what conversations took place between you and your ex. Based on the little info you provided it is strange how much went down for this “friend” whose birthday you don’t know but decided to buy a present for anyway and then had to meet up with immediately after being out of town. Again there’s only so much that can be assumed by what you posted.
Ur still young bro, leave her and never look back