I really think that marriage counselling could help you. It sounds like he’s never internalised what the “I’m sickness and in health” vow really meant. He never imagined his life growing old who he would be and who you would be.
In his head you’re still a girlfriend rather than family and he’s applying selfish girlfriend standards to you (ie what he gets rather than what he gives).
He is stuck in this mind set and a professional has more chance of breaking him out of it.
I didn't read too many of the comments, but I can't believe people haven't been appalled at Samantha's behavior. Am I the only one who thinks she might be psycho? This is not a friend, this is a woman who molded her whole life around OP. She knew he wasn't into her the way she wanted, so she did everything in her power to be in his life in any other way she could. She posed as a friend, inserted herself into his and his wife and child's lives, she took a job where OP works, she barely dated anyone because “all the good ones (aka OP) are taken”, this is a woman who is obsessed and I'd be surprised if she didn't secretly hope that OP's marriage would end at some point, and she'd be there to pick up the pieces and play mommy to his daughter.
OP, you should tread very carefully here. Firstly, do tell your wife everything. About your past, and about Samantha's advances. Your wife deserves to know who her “friend” is, and the motives behind her friendship. Samantha needs to be cut out of your family's life, and out of your will! I'm not sure if you are flattered by her confession, but if you are, you shouldn't be. Obsession is nothing to be flattered about, or taken lightly. This woman has not been, and will never be, a true, trustworthy friend.
Like seriously, I watched Lifetime movies on this exact same scenario! They didn't end well.
Your in a relationship that should have never started.He disrespects you because you let him. Leave him alone and fine someone who is honest loving and dependable.
Yeah but there's no guaranteeing that unless your rule is to be in a committed relationship beforehand. Even then they could sleep with you and then block you like nothing. Just be sure with your choice and understand that if things don't go the way you intended, it's alright.
You’ve posted this twice and are ignoring the advice sounds like you’re a troll
I really think that marriage counselling could help you. It sounds like he’s never internalised what the “I’m sickness and in health” vow really meant. He never imagined his life growing old who he would be and who you would be.
In his head you’re still a girlfriend rather than family and he’s applying selfish girlfriend standards to you (ie what he gets rather than what he gives).
He is stuck in this mind set and a professional has more chance of breaking him out of it.
I didn't read too many of the comments, but I can't believe people haven't been appalled at Samantha's behavior. Am I the only one who thinks she might be psycho? This is not a friend, this is a woman who molded her whole life around OP. She knew he wasn't into her the way she wanted, so she did everything in her power to be in his life in any other way she could. She posed as a friend, inserted herself into his and his wife and child's lives, she took a job where OP works, she barely dated anyone because “all the good ones (aka OP) are taken”, this is a woman who is obsessed and I'd be surprised if she didn't secretly hope that OP's marriage would end at some point, and she'd be there to pick up the pieces and play mommy to his daughter.
OP, you should tread very carefully here. Firstly, do tell your wife everything. About your past, and about Samantha's advances. Your wife deserves to know who her “friend” is, and the motives behind her friendship. Samantha needs to be cut out of your family's life, and out of your will! I'm not sure if you are flattered by her confession, but if you are, you shouldn't be. Obsession is nothing to be flattered about, or taken lightly. This woman has not been, and will never be, a true, trustworthy friend.
Like seriously, I watched Lifetime movies on this exact same scenario! They didn't end well.
You have never even seen a woman in real life have you
Your in a relationship that should have never started.He disrespects you because you let him. Leave him alone and fine someone who is honest loving and dependable.
Yeah but there's no guaranteeing that unless your rule is to be in a committed relationship beforehand. Even then they could sleep with you and then block you like nothing. Just be sure with your choice and understand that if things don't go the way you intended, it's alright.
You're young! What are the odds you marry the first girl you date?
Go out and live! life! Date other people! You can settle down later. Don't move in so quick. She is barely older than you…
I understand the instinct
You’ve been for almost a year and this has never come up before?
The holiday is such a good idea. “Terrific Lady Day” the official holiday.