Hello, idk what to say exactly besides this sounds honesty pretty normal. Check here for people's threesome gone bad stories. They almost always go bad in some way it seems. A main one is the guy being uncomfortable, nervous or even way to excited and then can't get very hot. So go e yourself some slack here. She's seen you get naked lots I'm assuming. She knows you can. There was alot going on and this jjst isn't the major embarrassing thing that you're thinking it was.
I think you need to sort out your feelings, maybe make some notes, and have a real talk with her. I think it's obvious this isn't a physical issue. It's an emotional one. I'm thinking it surprised you in a very unexpected way to see her with another man. That's fair and valid. It's also how I'm pretty sure most dudes would feel. I think it also hurt your feelings that she wasn't immediately stopping when you were noticeably uncomfortable.
This is new territory for you both. If you come with love then there will be an answer here. It doesn't mean you need ti break up. It means this situation left you feeling uncomfortable and maybe less cared for. Ok so talk about that with her.
And don't do these things unless you're truly ready in every way. That includes a safe word or signal that means “stop immediately” and reading the horror stories to see what has already triggered others so that you can learn from their mistakes.
Also doing these things does mean it has potential to make you feel these ways. If you aren't ready to feel these ways, do not put them on the table by opening up yourself to these kind of situations…
Every couple who does this stiff needs rules, boundaries and understanding for eachother. When my husband and I did this, our rules were as follows: -no kissing between the other women and him -constant looking at eachother and eye contact throughout to be sure you can immediately tell of your person is not ok -condoms at all times with anyone but us two -nothing with the other person not present (so like if he said he's going to the bathroom, it's my que ti say oh I'll get us all some water or something ti excuse myself for a min too
See these things keep you in tune with eachother and make sure you both know what to expect at all times. You guys sound like you sorta went free for all and we'll hey that's how it goes bad EVERY TIME
Never leave anyone behind on a hike, if you turn the corner and they aren’t there, wait a few then go look for them. You don’t drive off when part of the group is still out on the hike.
You asked your BF to go on a hike with you. You then spend all the time talking to his friend, not him, and actually separate yourself from your BF.
So yes you ditched him. Sure he was being an arse for some of the time, but your actions as a GF leave a lot to be desired as well, not to mention your actions as a hiking partner.
So to answer your question at the end, yes leave him. He deserves someone better than you.
Okay but is it okay to call a person you “love” those harsh things? because of a miscommunication, I have tried to see her side but it seems like she not even trying to see mine
Hello, idk what to say exactly besides this sounds honesty pretty normal. Check here for people's threesome gone bad stories. They almost always go bad in some way it seems. A main one is the guy being uncomfortable, nervous or even way to excited and then can't get very hot. So go e yourself some slack here. She's seen you get naked lots I'm assuming. She knows you can. There was alot going on and this jjst isn't the major embarrassing thing that you're thinking it was.
I think you need to sort out your feelings, maybe make some notes, and have a real talk with her. I think it's obvious this isn't a physical issue. It's an emotional one. I'm thinking it surprised you in a very unexpected way to see her with another man. That's fair and valid. It's also how I'm pretty sure most dudes would feel. I think it also hurt your feelings that she wasn't immediately stopping when you were noticeably uncomfortable.
This is new territory for you both. If you come with love then there will be an answer here. It doesn't mean you need ti break up. It means this situation left you feeling uncomfortable and maybe less cared for. Ok so talk about that with her.
And don't do these things unless you're truly ready in every way. That includes a safe word or signal that means “stop immediately” and reading the horror stories to see what has already triggered others so that you can learn from their mistakes.
Also doing these things does mean it has potential to make you feel these ways. If you aren't ready to feel these ways, do not put them on the table by opening up yourself to these kind of situations…
Every couple who does this stiff needs rules, boundaries and understanding for eachother. When my husband and I did this, our rules were as follows: -no kissing between the other women and him -constant looking at eachother and eye contact throughout to be sure you can immediately tell of your person is not ok -condoms at all times with anyone but us two -nothing with the other person not present (so like if he said he's going to the bathroom, it's my que ti say oh I'll get us all some water or something ti excuse myself for a min too
See these things keep you in tune with eachother and make sure you both know what to expect at all times. You guys sound like you sorta went free for all and we'll hey that's how it goes bad EVERY TIME
Never leave anyone behind on a hike, if you turn the corner and they aren’t there, wait a few then go look for them. You don’t drive off when part of the group is still out on the hike.
You asked your BF to go on a hike with you. You then spend all the time talking to his friend, not him, and actually separate yourself from your BF.
So yes you ditched him. Sure he was being an arse for some of the time, but your actions as a GF leave a lot to be desired as well, not to mention your actions as a hiking partner.
So to answer your question at the end, yes leave him. He deserves someone better than you.
He's allowed to have his preference. Same as you can.
What advice do you want here?
Yup.
Oof, the streets called and she answered…and you followed her down the block.
If you can't handle your partner doing ho shit, don't date a ho.
Talking and exclusive. Not dating (like boyfriend girlfriend) with a label tho
That is so disgusting. You feel all those things because that's what she meant you to feel
Personally there'd be no coming back from his. I'd be appalled and would never see them again except to get my belongings
Spitting is disgusting and disease spreading. It's an assault
That’s suspect in itself
Okay but is it okay to call a person you “love” those harsh things? because of a miscommunication, I have tried to see her side but it seems like she not even trying to see mine