Your double standards aren't just unfair I can see exactly how is giving him flashbacks to his childhood. if your insecurities are that bad you need to seek therapy, get a counselor get the thoughts out some other way than forbidding the man from enjoying things.
Your request is not rational and you know it's not rational because you understood its absurdity when it was turned back on you.
And finally…. You not feeling good about something isn't automatically someone else's job to fix or tip toe around, it isn't your partner's job to fix every negative emotion you experience, you are emotionally immature and it is unfair to expect another person to emotionally regulate. You have some work dto do.
You seem to have a very good man, be a good woman for him.
Sounds like he thinks you might have been not so loyal. Ofcourse I’m just an outsider looking in but this was my first thought. He probably acts this way because he thinks the kid is another mans and not his. Again I know nothing but the story you just told.
Ask her if she doesn’t want to be seen interacting with you now, what needs to change for her to feel comfortable? Is that something that can change quickly? Is she willing to do that? Are you comfortable with telling people “we’re not sure what this is” if you do start interacting publicly?
Maybe you should ask her if she has any reasons why she doesn't want to have sex ?
Maybe it's because she wants to wait for marriage, or maybe she's scared about it ? Maybe she doesn't have libido and is asexual : No matter the reason, it's understandable that you are frustrated and hurt if she doesn't give you one.
If she still refuse to give you a reason, or if her reason doesn't fit your vision of what you're looking for in a relationship, i recommend you to simply break up and hopefully find someone who want to have sex as much as you do.
I wanna say it was out of control for a strong year mainly in 2021.
I already said it in the post that I'm happy she's by my side, so if people still think that I'm ungrateful towards her, then so be it because as long as she knows how I feel and our marriage is in good-standing that's what matters. I'm just saying that I was uncomfortable with last night and I wish it was done in another way if she was concerned. Going forward, I know it'll be better, and I'll be happily awaiting the future.
How much if a changed man can he really be if he knowingly had unprotected sex with you and a woman who had HPV?? And he’s been keeping this VERY IMPORTANT info from you for how long?? This is yet another violation of your trust. He only told you about his AP because you found out, this new information proves that he is still fully okay with lying by omission and has been the whole time you guys have been back together. He has NOT CHANGED he is still a deceitful coward whose prolonged dishonesty could end up costing you your life! He knew the risk and saw how devastating this cancer is with that other woman but did absolutely NOTHING to warn you about it!!
This has got to be fake.
You are being PARTICULARLY ridiculous.
Your double standards aren't just unfair I can see exactly how is giving him flashbacks to his childhood. if your insecurities are that bad you need to seek therapy, get a counselor get the thoughts out some other way than forbidding the man from enjoying things.
Your request is not rational and you know it's not rational because you understood its absurdity when it was turned back on you.
And finally…. You not feeling good about something isn't automatically someone else's job to fix or tip toe around, it isn't your partner's job to fix every negative emotion you experience, you are emotionally immature and it is unfair to expect another person to emotionally regulate. You have some work dto do.
You seem to have a very good man, be a good woman for him.
If somebody is watching porn the changes of them stopping is very slim imo.
If this is a boundary you wish to keep don't give them a second change and look for somebody who at least claims to not watch porn, period.
Of course that means your dating pool is much smaller.
Sounds like he thinks you might have been not so loyal. Ofcourse I’m just an outsider looking in but this was my first thought. He probably acts this way because he thinks the kid is another mans and not his. Again I know nothing but the story you just told.
Ask her if she doesn’t want to be seen interacting with you now, what needs to change for her to feel comfortable? Is that something that can change quickly? Is she willing to do that? Are you comfortable with telling people “we’re not sure what this is” if you do start interacting publicly?
If there’s any hesitation, now isn’t the time.
Maybe you should ask her if she has any reasons why she doesn't want to have sex ?
Maybe it's because she wants to wait for marriage, or maybe she's scared about it ? Maybe she doesn't have libido and is asexual : No matter the reason, it's understandable that you are frustrated and hurt if she doesn't give you one.
If she still refuse to give you a reason, or if her reason doesn't fit your vision of what you're looking for in a relationship, i recommend you to simply break up and hopefully find someone who want to have sex as much as you do.
I wanna say it was out of control for a strong year mainly in 2021.
I already said it in the post that I'm happy she's by my side, so if people still think that I'm ungrateful towards her, then so be it because as long as she knows how I feel and our marriage is in good-standing that's what matters. I'm just saying that I was uncomfortable with last night and I wish it was done in another way if she was concerned. Going forward, I know it'll be better, and I'll be happily awaiting the future.
How much if a changed man can he really be if he knowingly had unprotected sex with you and a woman who had HPV?? And he’s been keeping this VERY IMPORTANT info from you for how long?? This is yet another violation of your trust. He only told you about his AP because you found out, this new information proves that he is still fully okay with lying by omission and has been the whole time you guys have been back together. He has NOT CHANGED he is still a deceitful coward whose prolonged dishonesty could end up costing you your life! He knew the risk and saw how devastating this cancer is with that other woman but did absolutely NOTHING to warn you about it!!
Never stick your dick in crazy