Thank you for the advice! I’ll try to be more reassuring. We do have fore play before leading up to things and then it just doesn’t happen hopefully we can get past this because everything else is going great
This right here. It's either that or the picture that she painted of you during the breakup was awful and she's embarrassed to tell them that it wasn't the case or that she's forgiven you anyway.
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I think it’s important to respect his boundaries if he’s not comfortable wit pda in front of his family. You already said he’s very private to begin with, so it makes sense that might not be something he feels comfy with. But I also think this might be something worth talking about with him so you can better understand what the boundaries are, since at the moment you’re having to try to guess. Maybe approach it like hey, I know you’re not comfortable with pda in front on your family. Could we talk about what is and isn’t okay so I don’t accidentally put you in an awkward spot?
Yikes this sounds like a car crash waiting to happen, just let him propose. + don’t be so sure the proposal is just round the corner, you’re both still v young and a lot of guys string women along for years, when deep down they never wanna get married because it doesn’t actually benefit them + financially hurts them
No, men do not always want sex. That is a lesson you need to learn, and that you should have learned yesterday, but today is better than never. Sit down and think about it: have you ever not been in the mood? If you have, great. Just assume that your boyfriend can feel the same exact thing.
If you haven't ever not been in the mood, well, I don't really know how to contextualize this for you, but yes, your boyfriend no always wanting sex is completely normal and a reaction you need to respect.
I think that depends on whether you think he'd feel ganged up on maybe, it could be better to address it yourself if you think he may get defensive, if not it would be worth having the three of you there because it means your gf can give her opinion and then he won't think it's one-sided/just you that has an issue with it
Oof. This is tough. On the one hand, of course you want to support your dad. Regardless of how much time you’ve had to prepare, losing a parent is devastating.
But on the other hand, this sounds like such an amazing opportunity, and something that a person who loves you, like your dad and grandpa, wouldn’t want you to miss out on.
I’m curious about how rare/hard/expensive it is to go on a volunteer trip like this? If this is something you can reschedule with moderate ease and won’t lose you thousands of dollars, I might just make the decision to cancel/postpone just to have it done with, so you can focus on your family and not be constantly thinking “should I cancel now?”
IMO, you definitely shouldn’t miss the funeral. If your grandpa doesn’t pass away and the funeral doesn’t happen before your scheduled trip, I really think you should cancel/postpone. If anything, just because I think you might regret not being there.
You know your family and situation better than anyone here. From my perspective, there will definitely be more opportunities for you to volunteer and travel. But you really only get one chance to support your dad after he loses his own father.
Thank you for the advice! I’ll try to be more reassuring. We do have fore play before leading up to things and then it just doesn’t happen hopefully we can get past this because everything else is going great
This right here. It's either that or the picture that she painted of you during the breakup was awful and she's embarrassed to tell them that it wasn't the case or that she's forgiven you anyway.
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I think it’s important to respect his boundaries if he’s not comfortable wit pda in front of his family. You already said he’s very private to begin with, so it makes sense that might not be something he feels comfy with. But I also think this might be something worth talking about with him so you can better understand what the boundaries are, since at the moment you’re having to try to guess. Maybe approach it like hey, I know you’re not comfortable with pda in front on your family. Could we talk about what is and isn’t okay so I don’t accidentally put you in an awkward spot?
Yikes this sounds like a car crash waiting to happen, just let him propose. + don’t be so sure the proposal is just round the corner, you’re both still v young and a lot of guys string women along for years, when deep down they never wanna get married because it doesn’t actually benefit them + financially hurts them
I worry that she could be stuck in “I can handle this, therefore I should,” rather than wanting to
Great point! Definitely something I will bring forward in my future comments. Appreciated 🙂
Well, take this a good learning opportunity.
No, men do not always want sex. That is a lesson you need to learn, and that you should have learned yesterday, but today is better than never. Sit down and think about it: have you ever not been in the mood? If you have, great. Just assume that your boyfriend can feel the same exact thing.
If you haven't ever not been in the mood, well, I don't really know how to contextualize this for you, but yes, your boyfriend no always wanting sex is completely normal and a reaction you need to respect.
I think that depends on whether you think he'd feel ganged up on maybe, it could be better to address it yourself if you think he may get defensive, if not it would be worth having the three of you there because it means your gf can give her opinion and then he won't think it's one-sided/just you that has an issue with it
Oof. This is tough. On the one hand, of course you want to support your dad. Regardless of how much time you’ve had to prepare, losing a parent is devastating.
But on the other hand, this sounds like such an amazing opportunity, and something that a person who loves you, like your dad and grandpa, wouldn’t want you to miss out on.
I’m curious about how rare/hard/expensive it is to go on a volunteer trip like this? If this is something you can reschedule with moderate ease and won’t lose you thousands of dollars, I might just make the decision to cancel/postpone just to have it done with, so you can focus on your family and not be constantly thinking “should I cancel now?”
IMO, you definitely shouldn’t miss the funeral. If your grandpa doesn’t pass away and the funeral doesn’t happen before your scheduled trip, I really think you should cancel/postpone. If anything, just because I think you might regret not being there.
You know your family and situation better than anyone here. From my perspective, there will definitely be more opportunities for you to volunteer and travel. But you really only get one chance to support your dad after he loses his own father.
Very badly actually
Fucking what?!
I never said anything about you and your partner did I? Yeah your wife probably likes.multiple dicks