He understands he doesn’t want to get blamed for it. Personally, I don’t share my food from my plate with anyone, and probably only do so with my partner as she’s my sexy and I love her. So I wouldn’t personally be caught in something exactly like this, but I would direct your anger at the boundary-stomper fake friend.
Generally, you don’t eat off someone else’s fork when they are handing it to you. You take his fork (other utensils) and then eat it. Unless they are your SO/date or very close family (parents and siblings mostly).
So it's understandable why you felt uncomfortable with this and I would explain to hubby you weren't blaming him but expressing how you feel about it and wanted his feelings on it as well. It sounds like he didn't like it very much and would rather not be put in a similar situation again.
How are you comparing going to dinner with coworkers (one of which has expressed feeling but been rejected) to going out to dinner with an Ex where there were once two way feelings and sex involved. There's no comparison there.
that’s true, thank you. I just tend to sometimes get stuck in a loop of insecurities/thoughts, and the only way I feel better is by asking her about it. Although this should not be the way I handle it, now I realize that.
I think I will treat this insecurity as an obsession.
If I get the thought, I sit with it, when I feel tempted to ask her about it, I don’t. Since asking her seems to be a compulsion. which ends up growing the obsession
You don’t love your wife. You fucking ABANDONED her when she needed you. And now that she’s back to catering to your needs, you’ve come back to her. Your ‘love’ is conditional on her being thin, attractive, and having dinner on the table. That’s not love.
Just tell her so she can find someone who appreciates her for who she is, instead of just what she can do for him.
He understands he doesn’t want to get blamed for it. Personally, I don’t share my food from my plate with anyone, and probably only do so with my partner as she’s my sexy and I love her. So I wouldn’t personally be caught in something exactly like this, but I would direct your anger at the boundary-stomper fake friend.
Generally, you don’t eat off someone else’s fork when they are handing it to you. You take his fork (other utensils) and then eat it. Unless they are your SO/date or very close family (parents and siblings mostly).
So it's understandable why you felt uncomfortable with this and I would explain to hubby you weren't blaming him but expressing how you feel about it and wanted his feelings on it as well. It sounds like he didn't like it very much and would rather not be put in a similar situation again.
How are you comparing going to dinner with coworkers (one of which has expressed feeling but been rejected) to going out to dinner with an Ex where there were once two way feelings and sex involved. There's no comparison there.
He wins the ego boost of dominating someone else. This is not complicated at all.
Never do something sexual you aren't comfortable with.
Sounds like she hasn't just abandoned monogamy. Her disregard for your feelings is toxic and will likely lead to escalating forms of emotional abuse.
that’s true, thank you. I just tend to sometimes get stuck in a loop of insecurities/thoughts, and the only way I feel better is by asking her about it. Although this should not be the way I handle it, now I realize that.
I think I will treat this insecurity as an obsession.
If I get the thought, I sit with it, when I feel tempted to ask her about it, I don’t. Since asking her seems to be a compulsion. which ends up growing the obsession
Since we were 16 & 18.
You don’t love your wife. You fucking ABANDONED her when she needed you. And now that she’s back to catering to your needs, you’ve come back to her. Your ‘love’ is conditional on her being thin, attractive, and having dinner on the table. That’s not love.
Just tell her so she can find someone who appreciates her for who she is, instead of just what she can do for him.
And is she religious? Or hardcore about her morals?
What about your father? Is there more to his behavior that makes him cryptic and mysterious?
Trust me, I'm going somewhere with all of this.